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Brian Stotko, Children’s Hospital Boston Clinical Genetics Fellow, Down Syndrome Program, wrote last week that a new, non-invasive test for Down syndrome is nearing reality:

But now scientists have learned how to quantify the fetal copies of the 21stchromosome, the genetic basis for Down syndrome, with a simple blood test taken in the first trimester. These tests would be safer, faster, and, most likely, cheaper than anything available today.

Because the current tests are invasive and are risky for the child, many parents choose not to test.  But with this new test, Dr. Stotko expects that nearly every pregnant woman will know in the first trimester if her baby has Down syndrome.  Dr. Stotko references the 92% rate for aborting these children using the current tests and asks the obvious question: will the births of babies with Down syndrome begin to decrease because of this testing?

Of course what he means is, will the decrease in births accelerate.  With a 92% abortion rate, we are already experiencing a significant decline in the births of children with Down syndrome, even though many women choose not to test.

I am not against this new test; knowing things about a child before he or she is born can be very helpful in serving the child’s medical needs.  I am against tests being used in a search-and-destroy matter.  And I do not mean that from the perspective of parents.  I am far more concerned about how doctors, medical systems, and insurers behave, because their current behavior generally is not in the interests of the children with Down syndrome being born.

Dr. Stotko addresses that issue as well:

Part of their decision will be based on the information they receive about Down syndrome from their medical providers. Yet, the majority of medical students argue that they get minimal education on children with intellectual disabilities; and nearly half of obstetric fellows claim their residency training is “barely adequate” to “nonexistent” in terms of how to counsel would-be parents of a child with intellectual disabilities. Some physicians who do routinely deliver a prenatal diagnosis also admit to purposely describing Down syndrome in negative terms. Not unexpectedly, then, many mothers feel that they receive inadequate, incomplete and sometimes offensive information about children with this condition.

I have no romantic notions that providing better education to doctors-in-training will turn this tide and create a whole generation of doctors who encourage mothers to let their children live.  But I think it might help.

Closer to home, I wonder what the church will do.  Will we stand for these parents and their children?  Will we present a different view of disability to every member? Will we raise up a generation of doctors who battle for the unborn?  Will we trust God to supply every need?

As frequently happens, God was getting me ready for Sunday’s sermon through an entirely unexpected avenue.

I was pointed to Cassie McLellend’s blog posting on Saturday evening and was gripped by several things she had to write, all of which are in quotes below:

It upsets me that doctors tell woman awful, terrifying things about their baby and then push them toward abortion.  We were told horrible things when we found out Caleb had SB, and we were “offered” termination at least 4 times.  I remember the doctor being shocked that we had no intention of aborting.

This is an example of the cultural weight against our children with disabilities.  Are parents really making an informed choice, or are their natural fears, limited information, and trust in experts guiding them?

I don’t mean any of this to be hurtful to someone who has had an abortion.  My heart breaks for the women who made that choice or felt like they had to make that choice.

What a reminder; this broke my heart for a different reason.  I spend a great deal of time and thought on arguments against abortion, especially addressing those in leadership who support this horrible practice: pastors, seminary and university professors, government leaders.  I have assumed people will understand I have a high level of care for the mothers involved.  But as I reviewed my own blog posts, I couldn’t see much evidence of that care.  This point that Cassie made, in particular, prepared me for Pastor John’s sermon; my heart was wide open when he came to his example of the university sophomore.

On another note, I have decided NOT to make this blog private.  At least not now.  I hate the thought that a parent expecting a child with SB might miss out on seeing this blog, seeing how wonderful Caleb is, because I decided to go private.  I wish I knew about blogs like mine when I was pregnant with Caleb.  It would have made a world of difference.

YES!  This young man stands as evidence of grace.  He has purpose and is already impacting people’s lives for the sake of the kingdom.  And from the comments to her post, Cassie has a broad audience and is helping guide people into different kinds of questions.  I’m grateful for this example.

And Greg Lucas has updated his blog as well.  I continue to learn new things every time he writes.  He reminds me that in the midst of extraordinary suffering, God demonstrates his power and mercy and grace.

Years ago I followed an email list for parents of children with disabilities.  A member of that group started the Silver Ribbon Campaign in the late 1990s.  It included this tagline:

Consider this silver ribbon a special gift. Please wear it to promote the awareness and support of children with disabilities.

Yesterday, on the anniversary of the Roe v. Wade decision by the U.S. Supreme Court, I found this on the site maintained by the Reproductive Coalition for Reproductive Choice website:

Join the Silver Ribbon Campaign – Wear A Silver Ribbon January 22-February 22 to Stand in Solidarity for Reproductive Rights and Justice.

In case you had any doubts, these ‘religious’ leaders support the practice of abortion.  And you know what that means for unborn children with disabilities.

It just made me want to cry.  Of all the colors the pro-abortion marketers had to choose, why that one?

I am tempted to a cynical thought that it was intentional, but I’m sure that isn’t the case.

The Silver Ribbon Campaign for children with disabilities never really took off here, but I would occasionally see a ribbon that looked silver or grey.  And that would make me smile.

Now, that symbol has been connected with the destruction of those same children.

Today marks the anniversary of the Supreme Court decision on Roe v. Wade.

This is particularly important in the realm of disability.  Many people who are normally against abortion are acting against that conviction when the child still in the womb has a disability.  Since the 1990s, from 40% – 50% of American’s have claimed to be pro-life.  Yet abortion rates have approached or exceeded 90% for some disabling conditions, like Down syndrome.

That child is no less human.  But the cultural desire to control the future, claim sovereignty over the rights and dignity of small human beings, and to avoid all forms of suffering is strong.  Is it not amazing that Jesus, who actually does control the future and truly has sovereignty over all human beings, does not avoid suffering but actually chose to suffer?

I found these posts, all from or linked to The Gospel Coalition, to be informative and helpful on this subject of abortion, though not specifically on disability.  It is important for us to be ready, and to speak clearly, and to pray earnestly:

Clarity Not Gadgetry: Pro-Life Apologetics for the Next Generation by Scott Klusendorf

The Supreme Court, Roe v. Wade, and Abortion Law by Justin Taylor

Randy Alcorn to Pastors about Abortion linked by Justin Taylor

Abortion Is About God: Piper’s Passionate, Prophetic Pro-Life Preaching by Justin Taylor.  This last one is by far the longest to read, but it provides an in-depth look at Pastor John’s preaching on this subject.  My only regret is that Justin wrote this chapter for the book, For the Fame of God’s Name, before Pastor John gave his sermon last year, Born Blind for the Glory of God!

May 2011 be the beginning of the end of this abhorrent practice forever.

 

 

 

How Long, Oh Lord?

There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death. Proverbs 14:12

January 22 marks the 38th ‘anniversary’ of the decision to legalize abortion in the United States.

This website highlights abortion services available for ‘fetal anomaly.’  They include:

For the past 14 years we have terminated pregnancies for fetal abnormalities such as 1) Central Nervous System that include: holoprosencephaly, encephalocele, encephalomyelocele, hydrocephalus, Spina Bifida, holorachischisis, Dandy Walker, anencephaly, holoanencephaly, absence of corpus callosum; 2) Cardiac abnormalities that include: Primary Pulmonary Hypertension, Hypolastic left and right ventricle, holoacardius, tetraloy of Fallot, Eisenmenger’s complex, transposition of great vessels; 3) Chromosomal abnormalities that includes a) Common: trisomy 13, 18, 21, b) less common: trisomy 16, short arm and long arm deletions; 4) Skeletal abnormalities: Polydactyly, Achondroplasia, Osteogenesis imperfecta, lethal dwarfism, 5) Kidney abnormalities: Adult and Infantile Polycystic Kidney diseases, Potter’s Syndrome; 6) GI abnormalities: gastroschisis, omphalocele.

Some of the above are lethal to the child; he or she will die shortly after birth.  Others, like Trisomy 21 (otherwise known as Down syndrome), include a lifetime of living with disability.  And a lifetime with family and communities who both suffer and benefit from the life God has given.

Still others, like omphalocele, are not always disabling: “Complete recovery is expected after surgery for an omphalocele. However, omphaloceles often occur with other birth defects. How well a child does depends on which other conditions the child also has (Google Health).”

And they are all on a list, grouped impassionately together like groceries.

Disability does that in this culture – individual human beings created for God’s glory cease to be recognized as people, and the sum value of their lives is entirely defined by their disability.  So, we eliminate a disability, not a person.  But every one of those listed ‘procedures’ was done on a child, cruelly in the name of ‘compassion’ to prevent suffering in the child or the mother.

Disability is hard; I certainly understand that.  But we should not wrap what is happening to our unborn children with disabilities in the pretty language of compassion, either for them or for their mothers.  Once again, the strong are making permanent decisions about the interests of the weak.  And the weak are being destroyed.

One of the curiosities in life is that when people admit a weakness, we tend to trust them more.  That’s one of the reasons we’re pretty happy with Paul’s primary care physician; she will, at times, admit we need to make a course correction.  She doesn’t let her ego get in the way of evidence.

She admitted recently that one of her colleagues, “a very good doctor,” appeared to be stuck and seeing another specialist was reasonable.

That doesn’t mean the specialist takes it well.

One of our complaints has been that one of Paul’s specialists seems pretty passive, as though he’s given up trying to diagnose and treat Paul’s ‘spells.’  So we’re pursuing a new course.

Dianne called this specialist to let him know our new course of action, to which he replied, what can they do that he couldn’t?  That seemed like a silly question, since he hadn’t done anything for several weeks.  And, being pushed, he admitted he thought these spells were something that couldn’t be treated successfully.

That was news to us.  He had never even inferred that before.  But it also seemed like a good reason we should get another opinion, since this doctor had decided it couldn’t be treated.  He didn’t agree.

Then he pulled out his trump card: you do realize your son is severely disabled?

That was, we’re assuming, supposed to make these mysterious spells seem not so bad.

Dianne did two things over the next several days that were quite helpful.  First, she didn’t tell me all that he said immediately.  We’re 15 years into this, so statements like that from the doctor mostly make me tired and discouraged.  But there’s still a reservoir of pride and anger (righteous and not) that wants to have justice in this present age.  That could have gotten ugly since I have been known to write letters to people’s superiors, and I know what buttons to push.

The second thing Dianne did was not to engage him at all, but to reassert our new course of action and end the conversation.  That was the better course.

In reflecting on it, God brought these verses of Benediction to mind:

Now may the God of peace who brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, the great shepherd of the sheep, by the blood of the eternal covenant, equip you with everything good that you may do his will, working in us that which is pleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory forever and ever. Amen. Hebrews 13:20-21

Our God is one of peace (I need to lay aside my anger and my pride), who brings people back from the dead (something a little more complicated than diagnosing a young man’s physical issues!) – and he equips us with ‘everything good’ to do his will.  Paul’s spells are no mystery to him, and even as we pursue Paul’s good, God will help us do what is most pleasing to him.

And here’s the anchor: through Jesus Christ!  What a promise!  Another reason to trust promises and not my perceptions.

 

R.C. Sproul on Romans 8:28:

God, in his providence, has the power and the will to work all things together for good for his people.  This does not mean that everything that happens to us is, in itself, good.  Really bad things do happen to us. They are only proximately bad; they are never ultimately bad.  That is, they are bad only in the short (proximate) term, never in the long term. Because of the triumph of God’s goodness in all things, he is able to bring good for us out of the bad.  He turns our tragedies into supreme blessings.

R.C. Sproul, in Be Still, My Soul: Embracing God’s Purpose and Provision in Suffering, edited by Nancy Guthrie, p. 47.

This feels a little self-indulgent but Dianne suggested we share some pictures from our trip, introducing you to some of these significant people.

So, of course, we’ll start with a house!

This little house in Salem, Oregon has served more than 1,500 women in just a few years, providing baby clothes, diapers – and most importantly – an introduction to the gospel of Jesus Christ.

And these are the people God used to make it happen.

Susan Smith manages a whole team of volunteers and relies on God to provide the hundreds of items needed to serve the women in crisis situations.  Craig and Susan live kitty-corner to the Baby Boutique.  There are 378 pictures on the wall of this house, with hundreds more being prepared.  And Susan told us more than 150 of the women have professed Jesus as savior!

It was a joy to spend some time with them – we were already filled up with blessing before even heading for the retreat!

And here is Justin Reimer, Executive Director and Founder of The Elisha Foundation.  “We are eager to reach out to families affected by any disability, with particular emphasis on families with special needs children or adults. Our ultimate goal is to equip these special families for a more intimate faith in Christ, passionately lived out with love.” (From The Elisha Foundation mission)

And this is the young man God used to create The Elisha Foundation: Elisha (Eli) Reimer.

I had the chance to spend some time with Eli.  He is a fine young man who loves Jesus and he loves me as well.  It was a privilege to be with him.

And this very serious man is Greg Lucas, the author of Wrestling with an Angel and our teacher for the retreat.

But wouldn’t you know I don’t have a good picture of two of the most important people we met!  Bob and Marsha took care of us during the retreat, and spent a great deal of time with Paul.  We could not have been treated with more kindness or affection – and Paul clearly felt loved.  Paul is sitting on Bob’s lap in this photo.

Finally, Dianne said I should post this family video as well, as a thank you to all who made this retreat possible!

The music comes from Dana Dirksen’s CD, Questions with Answers, Volume 2.

Paul was whistling Jingle Bells, at his brother’s request (it’s a little hard to hear).

Finally, the little girls at the end belong to my nephew John and his wife Laura.  A few hours with them was a delightful way to close our trip.

God made the whole trip possible.  We are very glad (Psalm 126:3)!

At The Elisha Foundation retreat last week there were a lot of people involved in making it happen, people at various stages in their understanding of God’s sovereignty and goodness over all things.  One of the men knew the day his son with disabilities was born that he would be in ministry to other families experiencing disability.  Two of the other men involved walked away from God and the church entirely.

So, it would just make sense that the man who was called into this ministry would lead the sessions, right?

The man who has walked with God consistently, Justin Reimer, was the one running around doing administrative work to provide this experience for the families.  And the two men who spent seasons away from God and the church were the ones leading sessions in the word.

How weird is that?

Of course, Americans love the redemption stories of the “good” man who lost everything, but through hard work and a little luck gained it all back.

This isn’t that story.

Greg Lucas, who led the teaching time, and I, who led the parent session, both walked away from God and the church for a season.  At our lowest moments, if I understood Greg’s story correctly, neither of us was looking for God, seeking his favor, or even wanting him to be active in our lives.  There certainly wasn’t anything good about us.

BUT GOD (Ephesians 2:4-7) breathed life into our dead hearts and gave us Jesus as our righteousness when there was nothing righteous about us.

Jesus paid it all,
All to Him I owe;
Sin had left a crimson stain,
He washed it white as snow.  Jesus Paid It All by Elvina Hall

I met a young man this week in deep pain over very hard circumstances in his life; he’s struggling.  I thought about Greg’s story and my story – and we talked about a God who does miracles, like the one I’ve experienced in my life.

I once thought disability was a curse, and it was the reason I left the church.  Instead, God used it to break my pride-filled heart and call me close to him.  It is all his doing.

Never give up in prayer for someone like I was. God is never constrained in his work, even by the greatest of sin.

At The Elisha Foundation retreat last week, the children with disabilities ranged in age from teenagers to 16 months.

The parents of the baby girl with Down syndrome were a huge encouragement to me – in a good church with people who loved them, had obvious affections for God and each other, and were seeking to parent their little girl in the strength God provides.

And they said they found encouragement in our story.

Just to recap, I lead my family AWAY from the church a few months after my son was born, said horrible things about God and had no desire to be with the people of God.

BUT GOD (Ephesians 2:4-7) had a different plan, for his glory and for my good.

I am still amazed at the kindness of God in calling me out of darkness – there wasn’t one speck of anything good in me.  And that story of God’s mercy is what people find encouraging.

And I find God’s sustaining strength in these young families to be a powerful testimony back to me!

In the end, it is always God’s story.  And I’m so grateful God has been placing more and more people in my life who love that story!