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Taken from Happiness, by R.C. Ryle (1816-1900):

The true Christian is the only happy man, because he can “sit down quietly and think about his soul. . .” He can think calmly about things to come, and yet not be afraid.

Sickness is painful; death is solemn; the judgment day is an awful thing: but having Christ for him, he has nothing to fear. He can think calmly about the Holy God, whose eyes are on all his ways, and feel, “He is my Father, my reconciled Father in Christ Jesus. I am weak; I am unprofitable: yet in Christ He regards me as His dear child, and is well-pleased.” Oh, what a blessed privilege it is to be able to “think,” and not be afraid!

Motherlode, a blog on parenting in the New York Times Magazine, reported on a study from The Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders that studied mothers of children with autism spectrum disorder.

Some of the findings:

  • The levels of chronic stress experienced by the mothers were similar to those of combat soldiers. The greater the child’s behavior problems, the worse the mothers’ stress.
  • Mothers of those with autism reportedly spend at least two hours more each day caring for those children than a comparative group of mothers whose children were not autistic.
  • The autism mothers were three times as likely to report a stressful event on any given day, and twice as likely to be tired.

My response: they needed a study to learn this?

I must admit that the comparison to soldiers in combat was a nice touch.

Many commenters at disabilityScoop have already noted that, once again, fathers were not part of a study.  So I’ll leave that one alone.

And, regardless of stress levels, parents being included or not, amount of time involved or anything else associated with disability, we know God’s response:

And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19

 

 

Endure to the End

We were weak, fallible, proud and full of sin even before disability entered our family.  How can anyone hope to endure for a day, let alone ‘to the end’?

We trust in the New Covenant promises of sustaining, enabling grace that were obtained for us infallibly and irrevocably by Jesus Christ in his death and resurrection. Therefore our fight and our race and endurance is a radically God-centered, Christ-exalting, Spirit-dependent, promise-supported life. It is not a “just do it” ethic. It is not a moral self-improvement program. It is not a “Judeo-Christian ethic” shared by a vaguely spiritual culture with a fading biblical memory. It is a deeply cross-embracing life that knows the Christ of the Bible as the Son of God who was crucified first as our substitute and then as our model of endurance.

From The Roots of Endurance by John Piper, p. 29

Because some children will meet Jesus before they become adults.

My daughter met the young girl in this video last year. That girl knew and loved Jesus.

She died two weeks ago.

That headline is inflammatory (and a direct quote from the press release I was reading) because the survey question pointed to very severe disabilities rather than all disabilities:

Which would you choose: Living with a severe disability that forever alters your ability to live an independent life, or death?

An interesting question, but it is clearly guiding people toward an answer.  Theoretically, death doesn’t sound so bad when compared to being severely disabled ‘forever’!

So, a few thoughts:

  1. Most people who experience disability will not ‘forever’ lose their ability to lead an ‘independent’ life, whatever that means.  We tend to take notice when that happens, of course, like in the cases of Joni Eareckson Tada or Christopher Reed.  Many, many more people will experience short-term disability: broken limbs, sicknesses that keep them from work for weeks or months, etc.
  2. My son and a few other children and adults at Bethlehem have severe disabilities that permanently limit their ability for what Americans generally understand as an ‘independent’ life.  But as I’ve written before, my boy probably “suffers” less than any person I know – so who has the better ‘quality of life,’ independent or not?
  3. Non-disabled Americans have no idea what life is really like for Americans with disabilities.  Certainly there are hardships which any person living with a disability or a disabled family member can document.  But that isn’t the whole story. Disability should not be the definition for whether that person has a meaningful life.
  4. Abortion statistics that exceed 70-90% for various kinds of disabling conditions aren’t a surprise when half of Americans don’t even want to consider disability for themselves, even in a theoretical sense. Killing elderly people or people with severe disabilities (meaning, the strong deciding what is best for the weak solely from the perspective of the strong) is already showing up around the world, and this statistic demonstrates why it is showing up in America.
  5. We are so arrogant, prideful, short-sighted and man-centered that we cannot even conceive of anything OTHER than an independent life as having worth.

Yet we know we are slaves to sin and only free if we cast every hope we have on a righteous, just, serving, holy, resurrected King:

Do you not know that if you present yourselves to anyone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either of sin, which leads to death, or of obedience, which leads to righteousness? Romans 6:16

That figure quoted above came from a research survey commissioned by Disaboom.com and conducted by Kelton Research in 2008.  You can read the press release here.

While he was at the prison, David Mathis shared this via Twitter from @pipertravel:

Piper to inmates: Your being in prison is the very way Jesus is loving you—& the curse on many outside is freedom & wealth

Or, in our context, your having a disability or cancer or leukemia or dementia or chronic pain or a child with a disability is the very way Jesus is loving you – & the curse on many is a healthy, disease-free, stress-free, easy, normal life.

How can this be?

For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.  Romans 8:18

From Paul Wolfe’s book, My God Is True! Lessons Learned Along Cancer’s Dark Road, p. 14:

And this king is no mere figurehead.  The Lord is a king with control. The traditional term for this divine control is ‘providence’. With holiness, wisdom and power, God preserves and governs all this creatures and all that they do. Nothing that takes place is beyond the scope of his good and purposeful rule (emphasis mine).

And he wrote this AFTER experiencing cancer.

I haven’t read much yet, but he obviously loves the Word of God.  I look forward to reading more.

The Westminster Larger Catechism contains one reference to ‘disabled’ and two references to ‘disability.’  It was written in the 1640s.

Helpfully, rather than assigning those terms exclusively to people living with disabilities, it assigns them to everyone.  Basically, we are all sinful, incapable of addressing our sin, and incapable of behaving morally.  Thus, we all need God to act on our behalf even when we are hostile to him, to call us out of our sin, and to provide a righteousness which is not our own.

In other words, we need Jesus.

Thank you to Ligonier Ministries for posting the entire text of the Catechism.

Question 25: Wherein consists the sinfulness of that estate whereinto man fell?Answer: The sinfulness of that estate whereinto man fell, consists in the guilt of Adam’s first sin, the want of that righteousness wherein he was created, and the corruption of his nature, whereby he is utterly indisposed, disabled, and made opposite unto all that is spiritually good, and wholly inclined to all evil, and that continually; which is commonly called original sin, and from which do proceed all actual transgressions.

Question 72: What is justifying faith?
Answer: Justifying faith is a saving grace, wrought in the heart of a sinner by the Spirit and Word of God, whereby he, being convinced of his sin and misery, and of the disability in himself and all other creatures to recover him out of his lost condition, not only assents to the truth of the promise of the gospel, but receives and rests upon Christ and his righteousness, therein held forth, for pardon of sin, and for the accepting and accounting of his person righteous in the sight of God for salvation. 

Question 95: Of what use is the moral law to all men?
Answer: The moral law is of use to all men, to inform them of the holy nature and will of God, and of their duty, binding them to walk accordingly;to convince them of their disability to keep it, and of the sinful pollution of their nature, hearts, and lives; to humble them in the sense of their sin and misery, and thereby help them to a clearer sight of the need they have of Christ, and of the perfection of his obedience.

Until 8am tomorrow morning, every donation to any Minnesota non-profit is eligible for a matching gift from GiveMN.org, including Desiring God and Bethlehem Baptist ChurchYou can read about it here.

A few minutes ago I saw this ‘leader board’ based on the number of people who have chosen to donate to various non-profits.  Currently Desiring God is number 4, which is very encouraging.

I offer it not to guilt anyone about giving – I firmly believe the first thing people should do when it comes to money and contributions is pray and seek God’s leading.

But I find it interesting to see what people value.  And there’s one organization in particular I wouldn’t mind seeing disappear, not just from this board but from the face of the planet.  Someday. . . .

Leader Board

Top 10 Organizations by Number of Donors*

Rank Organization # of
Donors
1st Second Harvest Heartland 249
2nd Animal Humane Society 165
3rd YMCA of Greater Saint Paul 139
4th Desiring God Ministries 135
5th College of Saint Benedict 128
6th Twin Cities Public Television Inc 112
7th Cretin-Derham Hall 90
8th Planned Parenthood Minnesota, North Dakota, South Dakota 88
9th ST OLAF COLLEGE 88
10th THE CONVENT AND ACADEMY OF THE VISITATION 83

This could be a long series, but I think I’ll limit it to this post for now.  Pastor John did a very helpful sermon on this issue which can be read or downloaded here.

On Sunday we welcomed new covenant members into Bethlehem and it reminded me of when Dianne and I  became members in 1992.  I didn’t realize that process in 1992 would lead to something incredible in 1996 that I still carry with me today.

Here’s what transpired:

  • In the Fall of 1991 or Spring of 1992 Dianne and I went through the ASK Class and interview process at Bethlehem Baptist Church.
  • Part of the process at that time was for potential members to give a testimony in public.   I chose the King’s Friends Sunday School class, which was made up of the most senior members of Bethlehem.
  • Paul Knight shows up in 1995 and we leave the church.  That story has been told here if you’re interested, after an introduction by David Michael.
  • In 1996, after we had returned to Bethlehem following our dark days away from the faith, one of those elderly saints from that King’s Friends class stopped me.  I couldn’t remember her name but she knew about Paul and remembered me.  Her affections for me and for Dianne and for Paul could not have been more evident.  To say that she was a prayer warrior would not do that term justice – she was a prayer conqueror!

And she didn’t know any of the right words to use about disability.  In fact, after being blown away by the depths of the love this woman had for my family, I realized later that she used old terms for disabling conditions that are now considered offensive.  And I heard none of that while we were together.  God had made my ears hear something very sweet and very precious and life-giving.

Incline your ear, and hear the words of the wise,
and apply your heart to my knowledge,
for it will be pleasant if you keep them within you,
if all of them are ready on your lips.
That your trust may be in the Lord,
I have made them known to you today, even to you.

Proverbs 22:17-19