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Here in the United States there’s an election happening next week.

During these times I’m very grateful God wrote to us about his sovereignty over leaders:

The king’s heart is a stream of water in the hand of the Lord; he turns it wherever he will. Proverbs 21:1

Voting is one of those confounding things in my life.  The stakes, on the one hand, are very high as decisions our elected officials make have an impact on issues of direct consequence to those of us dealing with disability – healthcare, access to education, and parental rights just to name a few.

And there are the issues of literal life and death importance: abortion, infanticide, ‘mercy killing’ and ‘death with dignity.’

On the other hand, in light of eternity, every leader today will someday – soon – just be a footnote in a history book and every decision will have been changed, added to or discarded.

So, I would encourage you to pray, research and vote – and then trust God over all of it!  If God gives us Wednesday morning, no matter how our candidates fared on Tuesday, he will still be sovereign over everything.

Tim Tomlinson, President of Bethlehem College and Seminary, writes a weekly prayer email and always includes a meditation, reflection or devotion.  I found his thoughts this week on the election helpful (you can subscribe to the BCS prayer email here):

Next week the biennial election is upon us. As is usually the case, there is much at stake in this election at all levels of government. As I drive by the hordes of yard signs and billboards, I’m struck by several impulses. First, aside from the higher profile candidates and offices, I don’t really know much about many of the names I’ll see on the ballot on Tuesday–judges, mayors, city council members, county commissioners, etc. Second, I must fight the tendency to despair about the outcome of the election. Third, does it make any difference at all in the long run what I do? Fourth, should a Christian even be concerned about such things?

The first impulse is real, and a challenge to overcome. Even in the Internet era, finding the kind of information which might be helpful (candidates’ stand on key issues–especially local level candidates) is still difficult, as many political candidates have learned the fine art of being vague on controversial issues. However, interest group sites (National Right to Life, etc.) can often be helpful.

The second impulse is harder to overcome because its cause is my momentary lack of faith in the sovereign God of the universe. I need to remind myself regularly that Jesus Christ is the one who holds all authority in his hands.

“For by him all things were created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities–all things were created through him and for him” (Colossians 1:16).

The third impulse is like the second, only more subtle. The answer, of course, is that it does make a difference what I do. The outcome of any given election may not be the one I hoped and voted for, but my participation may affect an election–especially at the local level.

The fourth impulse is clearer, but Christians are divided over this nonetheless. We know that the outcome of an election isn’t going to alter God’s plan for the culmination of history; that isn’t our business–it’s his alone. Instead, we are called to be faithful members, citizens, and participants in this temporary home we call life on earth. This is part of what it means to be in the world, but not of the world. We know the ultimate outcome of all things is in the Lord’s hands. In the meantime, we must be faithful witnesses–even through our voting in elections–to the glory, worth, beauty, and righteousness of Christ Jesus.

May we all put our faith in the sovereign God of the universe, and be at peace in this world.

Amen, Tim.  Thanks for the good word.

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If you are anywhere near the Twin Cities in mid-November (and are a mom), please plan on attending a special event at Grace Church Eden Prairie.

Bethlehem’s own Mary Horning will be speaking on “Healing Through the Journey” and then participating in a special panel discussion with other mothers.

If a Horning (Mary, Bob or Krista) is speaking, I recommend it!

Special Mom’s Retreat
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Keynote speaker: Mary Horning, co-author of Just the Way I Am: God’s Good Design in Disability
9:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m. (lunch included)
Cost: $5.00 To register or for further information, contact Sue Hume at shume@q.com or 952-470-6181.

The registration deadline is November 5.

I know Mary would appreciate our prayers as she prepares for this event.

The Barnabas Disability Ministry at Grace Church is one of the best around.  Every one of their volunteers I’ve met (most of whom have a family member with a disability) loves Jesus, loves the families involved in their program, and want to proclaim the goodness of God.  I’m grateful for their friendship to Bethlehem, and for their making possible this opportunity for Mary to share her story of God’s sovereign goodness in her life through much difficulty and suffering.

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Tim Challies and David Murray conducted a great interview with Greg Lucas, author of Wrestling with an Angel, yesterday.  It was the fastest 24 minutes of my day!

There is an incredible story he shares at about the 17:50 point of the interview – if you only have a three minutes, start there and be blown away by God’s mercy.

But, if you can, listen to the whole thing and be encouraged at how God has brought and worked through suffering to increase Greg’s love for and trust in him!

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October is officially National Disability Employment Awareness Month.  President Obama included in his official declaration:

Individuals with disabilities are a vital and dynamic part of our Nation, and their contributions have impacted countless lives.  People with disabilities bring immeasurable value to our workplaces, and we will continue to address the challenges to employment that must be overcome.  This month, let us rededicate ourselves to fostering equal access and fair opportunity in our labor force, and to capitalizing on the talent, skills, and rich diversity of all our workers.

I agree whole-heartedly.

But I would also suggest the President, in wanting to make a generous statement about people with disabilities, did not use the word ‘immeasurable’ accurately. The Federal government measures value all the time: gross national product, employment levels, investment in capital and personnel.  We watch these measurements with great interest.

By contrast, God, who creates out of nothing, knits together little human beings for his glory who will have an eternal existence.  Eternity would seem to be more appropriately connected to ‘immeasurable value’ than productivity in any workplace.

In fact, it is that connection to productivity in the workplace that leaves me unsettled.  I know quite a few children who will never be ‘productive’ in terms of their ability to produce an economic benefit to society.  This lack of future benefit combined with alleged certainty about the ‘quality of life’ a child will experience results in some horrendous things – like abortion rates of more than 90% for some disabling conditions.

How can we even begin to make statements about ‘immeasurable value’ in one area of life when these future workers aren’t allowed to be born?

Yes, I’d feel much better about this declaration if the President took a stand on pre-born babies with disabilities having intrinsic value and inherent, God-given dignity.

Please, Mr. President, do more than make declarations about employment for people with disabilities.  Do more than talk about abortion being ‘safe, legal and rare‘ in this country.  Please, tell people to let the children live.

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“The sum of your word is truth, and every one of your righteous rules endures forever” (Psalm 119:160).

Registration for the Children Desiring God Conference in March 2011 has just opened and the theme is excellent:  Holding Fast to the Word of Truth.

Brenda Fischer is preparing a new seminar on disability I’m looking forward to hearing: Disability, Autism, and the Tender Mercy of Our God.

I’ve been asked to broaden my subject, but disability will still be a key part of the presentation: Helping Families Deal with the Unexpected.

Please pray for us as we prepare, that God would be glorified above all and that we would help people see his powerful, sovereign, good, loving, kind hand over disability!

 

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This video is shocking, horrifying:

The bold proclamation about ‘putting a pillow over its face’ feels like a different kind of evil even than what we’ve seen proclaimed by abortion providers and their supporters.

But it really isn’t.  Through every generation since the fall there have been people who thought or behaved exactly like what was articulated in this video.  The fact that someone would feel free to say it, for whatever reason, is more a sign of the culture than it is of the person saying it.

The answer to that evil remains the same:  Jesus.

And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth. John 1:14

Again Jesus spoke to them, saying, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” John 8:12

Jesus answered them, “Truly, truly, I say to you, everyone who commits sin is a slave to sin. The slave does not remain in the house forever; the son remains forever. So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed. John 8:34-36

The world needs to know about this Jesus.  The world needs to understand that God is a very big God, sovereign over everything that happens, including over little babies who suffer.  And he provided Jesus.

It is an awesome thing to know and cling to and love this Jesus, who rips out hearts of stone that lead to bold statements about killing babies, and replaces it with hearts of flesh (Ezekiel 36:26) that trust God to help every day address suffering in little children.

This video clip was forwarded to me, so I don’t know how the woman in the religious collar responded.  It looked like she was as horrified as I felt.

Regardless, the ultimate answer is Jesus.

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Yes, God is that good

During the Desiring God National Conference, I had the opportunity to meet in person several people I only knew by their work and their writings. I also had the chance to see some old friends, and even had members of my family attend their first conference.

And the connection was entirely based on loving Jesus, wanting to know him better, and encouraging others to treasure him above all things. It was humbling and beautiful and wonderful.

A highlight was a dinner with friends from far away and close by, all connected by disability in our families.

Ours is a strange fraternity in one sense – we don’t usually choose to join, although I met one young pastor who is pursuing adopting a child with disabilities.

Yet, as I looked around that table, I saw a group of people who had been transformed by God into seeing the strength and majesty of God over disability, helping us daily to persevere in what he has given us to do and profoundly feeling God’s blessing.

So I walk away from this weekend deeply encouraged and excited about what God might be pleased to do with and through our unusual families.

Yes, God is sovereign over disability, and he is entirely good.

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Bethany was kind enough to add to the discussion on genetic screening yesterday.  She also wrote about it on her blog and added some questions of her own:

Is it too much to expect my doctor to value my child herself, not just because I value him/her?
Is it dumb to insist on a pro-life doctor when a pro-choice one may be just as or even more skilled medically?
Is it worth making a fuss about these tests. I mean, should I just go through with them to make the doctor happy?
Would it possibly be helpful to know about a disability before birth? Would it allow time to get the necessary specialists together so the baby could have instant care upon birth?

The question about knowledge of disability before a child is born is a really difficult one.  People are generally not neutral on that subject, either.  The way it is handled can create division between friends and family and church members.

Here’s how we talked about it in a document we submitted to the Elders of Bethlehem almost six years ago:

While we take a strong stand in support of pre-born children, we take no particular position on the use of technologies in discovering disability among the pre-born.  Even amongst the parents of the current Disability Ministry, different couples chose different routes. . .  In both cases, the children were going to join their families as God allowed, regardless of what was known or not known. (Horning, Horning and Knight, p. 8 )

On the question about the life and worth of the pre-born child with a disability we were all in absolute agreement: let the child live.  After that, the choices are not quite so clear.

Discovering disability before birth is just one of several questions that could easily divide us within the disability community.  We are bombarded with choices in therapies, nutrition, medication, educational programs, and emerging technologies.  And our children all respond differently, even when they have similar diagnoses.

But in looking for an answer for our child or children with disabilities, we can become ferocious even with (or possibly especially with) those who share some commonality with us.  The tone of voice may be calm and even, but the words used might be shouting:

You must do this for the sake of your child!  How can you possibly make a different choice than I am making!!  You don’t care about your child!!!

Ironically, this was probably a greater problem during Dianne’s treatment with her cancer than it has been in our situation for Paul.  Lots of people, including some who felt the need to come into my own home, had opinions about what treatments she ‘should’ be getting.  I’m still sorry I didn’t throw one couple out of my house and gotten the elders involved with church discipline!

Oh how we need God to help us to serve each other with wisdom and kindness!

Of course, sometimes we need to speak up and challenge other parents in the decisions they are making.  But I find that this is rarely necessary, especially after they have dealt with disability for a few years.  If I remember to just listen from beginning to end, and ask a few questions to help me understand, usually I can see the logic a parent is applying – and that my first impression to jump in and ‘save the day’ would not only not have been welcome, it would also have been wrong.

In the end, we are all fallible.  I know my son better than you do, but I don’t know him like God does.  And he has promised to help us:

fear not, for I am with you;
be not dismayed, for I am your God;
I will strengthen you, I will help you,
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10

And I believe that means he will help us – no matter the question.  When we see a brother or sister doing something for their child with a disability, something that we disagree is right or effective, we should first go to God and ask for his help and for his wisdom and for a clean heart.  And then we go to that brother or sister in love, ready to serve, mindful that God alone is God.

I’m praying that I can behave more like this and that we can all be known for this:

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11

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C.J. Mahaney of Sovereign Grace Ministries was in town last weekend to preach at Bethlehem – and said one of the highlights of his visit was meeting Krista and the rest of the Horning family!

I can believe that.  I saw three of the Horning clan after the Saturday evening service, and it was a highlight for Dianne and me!

He also wrote this endorsement of Just the Way I Am on the Sovereign Grace blog last week.

Don’t forget – Krista and Mary will be appearing at the Desiring God National Conference for a book signing on Friday, October 1 at 11:00 a.m.

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That verse in the title, found in John 9:41, came to mind as I read one of the comments attached to Amy Julia Becker’s blog posting on why she declined prenatal testing for her third pregnancy.

Happily, the vast majority of comments were positive, including several similar stories of good decisions women made to let their babies live.  A couple of dads even weighed in.

A genetic counselor, however, wrote a comment on his or her sorrow at how prenatal testing was presented.  What grabbed me was this statement:

No judgement (sic), no pushing- that’s how my appointments work. I mainly want patients to feel comfortable and informed, no matter what they choose.

No matter what they choose?

It sounds all very soothing and helpful and reasonable.  How often is this comfortable ‘choose what is right for you’ given as the final answer.

That ‘choice’ statement would be nonsense even if people considered disability to be normal.  But we know the direction of the culture is against our children with disabilities.

And no matter how prepared a parent is, this issue is never neutral.  Disability frightens people.  There is no safe space where ‘non-judgmental’ conversations exchanging objective information can happen.

What children (and their parents) really need are advocates, not professionals who will make parents feel comfortable about whatever decision the parents make.  I’m good enough at self-justification to not even need that kind of ‘counsel’.

Hopefully you’ve read enough on this blog to know we live in the real world of hurt and loneliness and financial difficulty associated with disability.  There are no romantic notions here about disability being easy.  We live with an entirely different framework than the culture, however, knowing that God is sovereign over all things and has promised to help us.

And, frankly, this counselor is disingenuous.  The desire to help people feel comfortable with any decision means that the counselor is comfortable with the idea of aborting a little human being on the basis of disability.  I am not comfortable with that, and don’t ever want to be comfortable with that, and I don’t want anyone else thinking it is ok to be comfortable with that decision.

Embracing this notion of choice also validates the idea that we are god, entirely able to make whatever decision we want to concerning a human being who is entirely defenseless.

If we claim this kind of sovereignty over our own lives (and little babies’ lives) and attempt to justify ourselves before God, there is nothing standing between us and the righteous wrath of God.

But, we can have full confidence that every sin, including aborting or encouraging the abortion of a child with a disability, is completely covered by what Jesus did for us in obedience to the Father at the cross.  When God calls and gives us faith, we are entirely clothed in the righteousness of Jesus.  And that allows us to live a different kind of life entirely, under his good care.

After all, it is God alone who makes these bold statements about his sovereignty over disability:

Then the Lord said to him, “Who has made man’s mouth? Who makes him mute, or deaf, or seeing, or blind? Is it not I, the Lord? Exodus 4:11

Jesus answered, “It was not that this man sinned, or his parents, but that the works of God might be displayed in him.” John 9:3

And we have clear instructions from God about how to think about those who are weaker:

The eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you,” nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.” On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together. 1 Corinthians 12:21-26

And God alone will have the final say:

For we know him who said, “Vengeance is mine; I will repay.” And again, “The Lord will judge his people.” It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God. Hebrews 10:30-31

So let us never put on a neutral tone regarding the choices people face with their unborn children with disabilities.  Let us remind counselors that their duty is to actively counsel against bad decisions, not justify every decision.  Parents need to know the truth about the good and the bad in raising a child with a disability, be offered ideas for dealing with issues, and receive support in their deepest moments of grief – so that the child is allowed to live.

We can do this boldly in the midst of another’s deepest pain and confusion because we have a promise no secular counselor can ever offer, and it is one we can bank everything on:

And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.  Philippians 4:19

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