A friend reminded me about how good Paul Miller’s book, A Praying Life, is (bold is mine):
The Father can’t think of anything better to give us than his Son. Suffering invites us to join his Son’s life, death, and resurrection. Once you see that, suffering is no longer strange. Peter writes, “Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice insofar as you share Christ’s sufferings” (1 Peter 4:12-13).
Paul Miller, A Praying Life: Connecting with God in a Distracting World (Kindle Locations 2976-2978). NavPress. Kindle Edition.