I had to stop and reread this a couple of times. I’m not sure I can entirely wrap my mind around it!
The Father can’t think of anything better to give us than his Son. Suffering invites us to join his Son’s life, death, and resurrection. Once you see that, suffering is no longer strange. Peter writes, “Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice insofar as you share in Christ’s sufferings” (1 Peter 4:12-13).
Paul Miller, A Praying Life: Connecting with God in a Distracting World, Kindle location 2968. It’s no longer free, but still a very good read.