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Years ago, when Paul was still very young, an older saint stopped to talk with me at church.

She didn’t use any of the ‘right’ words to describe Paul’s disabilities; in fact, she used most of the wrong words!

This was in the days when I was hyper-sensitive about anything connected to my son or his disabilities.  I was more than prepared to take offense at the smallest of things, and using the wrong words would not have been a small thing.

But all I felt were her godly affections for me and for my son.

I thought of that old saint as I read Mary Beeke’s The Law of Kindness: Serving with Heart and Hands:

Oil flows from an oil well. A mountain stream produces fresh water. The source gives its own product. A loving heart produces loving words. Some fountains trickle, some effuse. Whether we speak much or little, let our words be good and kind.  Beeke, p. 179.

Her words weren’t ‘correct,’ but her heart certainly was.  Her loving heart made her words land on me as loving.

The Holy Spirit helped me see something, or, rather, he helped me to feel something real and powerful in the midst of so much chaos and hurt and bitterness in those days.

Why am I a Christian hedonist today? At root, of course, is that God did the miracle of making me finally alive. But God has also used old (and young) saints to pursue us in love, and that love comes from an overflowing joy in and gratefulness toward Jesus.  And I want to be like that.

Most Americans, even those who generally support a ‘right’ to abortion, don’t like the idea of later-term abortions.

Ann Furedi points out why this is intellectually dishonest:

To the ‘ethical straddlers’ concerned about gestation we must ask: is there anything qualitatively different about a fetus at, say, 28 weeks that gives it a morally different status to a fetus at 18 weeks or even eight weeks? It certainly looks different because its physical development has advanced. At 28 weeks we can see it is human – at eight weeks a human embryo looks much like that of a hamster. But are we really so shallow, so fickle, as to let our view on moral worth be determined by appearance? Even if at five weeks we can only see an embryonic pole, we know that it is human. The heart that can be seen beating on an ultrasound scan at six weeks is as much a human heart as the one that beats five months later.

That sounds like a great case against all abortions!

However, she’s actually arguing the opposite.

The moral principle at stake in the debate on later abortions, the one that genuinely matters, has been ignored completely in the recent discussions. This is the principle of moral autonomy in respect of reproductive decisions. To argue that a woman should no longer be able to make a moral decision about the future of her pregnancy, because 20 or 18 or 16 weeks have passed, assaults this and, in doing so, assaults the tradition of freedom of conscience that exists in modern pluralistic society.

Let’s remember what moral autonomy gets us on ANY issue:

None is righteous, no, not one (Romans 3:10).

For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23).

For the wages of sin is death (Romans 6:23).

And let us also not forget what moral autonomy means in this case – the destruction of a small human being by larger human beings.

Even a pluralistic society dictates limits on that sort of behavior for the sake of the weaker members.  Where that weaker member lives shouldn’t make a difference.

Dianne won’t like me writing this, but I’m going to do it anyway.

She gave a great presentation to the MOMS (Making Our Mothering Significant) group at the Downtown campus on Tuesday.  I know it was recorded; I’ll point to it when it is available online.

It was God-honoring and ‘as sorrowful, yet always rejoicing.’ She told the truth about how hard it is, and how good God is.  She reminded those 35 or so moms where their real hope must be.

And I get to experience the blessing of that kind of wife!

She had shared her remarks with me before she spoke, but as she spoke I was reminded of something Pastor John had preached about and then wrote about.  It is a great description of Dianne:

The next thing to see about Christian womanhood, after hope in God, is the fearlessness that it produces in these women. So verse 5 says that the holy women of old hoped in God. And then verse 6 gives Sarah, Abraham’s wife, as an example and then refers to all other Christian women as her daughters. Verse 6: “And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.”

So this portrait of Christian womanhood is marked first by hope in God and then by what grows out of that hope, namely, fearlessness. She does not fear the future; she laughs at the future. The presence of hope in the invincible sovereignty of God drives out fear. Or to say it more carefully and realistically, the daughters of Sarah fight the anxiety that rises in their hearts. They wage war on fear, and they defeat it with hope in the promises of God.

Mature Christian women know that following Christ will mean suffering (2 Tim. 3:12). But they believe promises like 1 Peter 3:14, “But even if you should suffer for righteousness’ sake, you will be blessed. Have no fear of them, nor be troubled,” and 1 Peter 4:19, “Therefore let those who suffer according to God’s will entrust their souls to a faithful Creator while doing good.” That is what Christian women do: They entrust their souls to a faithful Creator. They hope in God. And they triumph over fear.

John Piper, This Momentary Marriage, pp. 97-98.

Is her (or my) first response always fearlessness?  Certainly not.  But I have seen her wage war on fear in the midst of some pretty frightening circumstances: disabled son, prematurely born son, Stage IV cancer. I know where her hope lies.

 

Pastor John examines Psalm 147:11:  but the Lord takes pleasure in those who fear him, in those who hope in his steadfast love.

The reason our hope is a pleasure to God is because it shows that all our joy comes from the bounty of his grace. And the reason our prayers are a pleasure to God is because they express this God-exalting hope. It is a precious thing beyond all words – especially in the hour of death – that we have a God whose nature is such that what pleases him is not our work for him but our need of him.

John Piper, The Pleasures of God: Meditations on God’s Delight in Being God, pp. 215-216.

Disability is, almost by definition, painful.  If there isn’t physical pain, then there is the pain of being different, of being rejected by others, of everything just seeming to be harder than it needs to be.  And permanent disability lasts a long, long time.

Where is God in this?

Paul Tripp, in Broken Bone Hymns:

Now, you have to ask, “Why would a God of love ever bring pain into the lives of the people he says he loves?”

The difficult things that you experience as God’s child that may seem like the result of God’s unfaithfulness and inattention or anger are actually acts of redemptive love.

You see, in bringing these things into our lives God is actually fulfilling his covenantal commitment to satisfy the deepest needs of his people.

And what is it that we need the most?

The answer is simple and clear throughout all of Scripture: more than anything else we need him.

As you can tell if you read this blog, I spend a great deal of time on the topic of abortion and disability.

It isn’t a popular subject.  And unborn children with disabilities don’t have many political advocates.

The lack of any statement at all about disability in the recent legislation in Arizona to ban abortions related to sex and race selection is an example for how little people think about it.  Abortions related to sex or race selection are equally abhorrent, of course, but the percentage of babies aborted because of disabling conditions is significantly higher.

It is a recipe for cynicism and bitterness in my heart.

Fortunately, hope can be built on something much greater than political action.  And that hope is for everyone who clings to Jesus!

Moses delivered the people who were being oppressed. Jesus delivers oppressed and oppressor. Moses delivered the hated race. Jesus delivers the hated and the hater. Moses couldn’t deliver the strangled babies or babies thrown into the Nile, but Jesus delivers the babies, the mothers, the abortion providers, the irresponsible boyfriends. He loves and saves every sinner who trusts in him. John Piper, Abortion, Race, Gender and Christ, January 23, 2005.

And I know Pastor John includes the babies with disabilities when he’s talking about abortion:

The message is that God knits all the children together in their mothers’ wombs, and they are all—all of them of every degree of ability—conceived for the purpose of displaying the glory of God.  John Piper, Born Blind for the Glory of God, January 24, 2010

So, I’m not against laws like the one being considered in Arizona, or the fetal pain legislation being championed in Kansas and Oklahoma.  Someday, maybe they will seriously consider the human rights of unborn children with disabilities.

In the meantime, we can hope in the only one who can save “the oppressed and the oppressor.”  What an amazing, helpful, hope-building reality we have in Jesus!

Horrendous arguments don’t usually begin in the public eye.  They begin in smaller circles, between very smart people.  And then one day we begin to see the actual results.

Let’s take infanticide.

1973:

“Of 299 consecutive deaths occurring in a special-care nursery, 43 (14 per cent) were related to withholding treatment.”  Duff and Campbell, New England Journal of Medicine, October 1973.

1983:

“Where is the line to be drawn in the case of infanticide?  This is not really a troubling question since there is no serious need to know the exact point at which a human infant acquires a right to life.”  Tooley, In Defense of Abortion and Infanticide, p. 133.

1985:

“Decisions about severely handicapped infants should not be based on the idea that all human life is of equal value, nor on any other version of the sanctity of human life.” Kuhse and Singer, Should the Baby Live, p. 172.

2004:

“The Groningen Protocol was developed in order to assist with the decision making process when considering actively ending the life of a newborn, by providing the information required to assess the situation within a legal and medical framework.” Wikipedia

“According to A.A.E. Verhagen, who launched the initiative (Groningen Protocol): ‘It’s time to be honest about the unbearable suffering endured by newborns with no hope of a future. All over the world doctors end lives discretely out of compassion, without any kind of regulation. Worldwide, the US included, many deaths among newborns are based on end of life decisions, after physicians reached the conclusion that there was no quality of life. This is happening more and more frequently.’

2011:

“When labor was induced and a baby was born, Dr. Gosnell would kill it by cutting into its neck and severing its spinal cord in a process he referred to as ‘snipping.'” New York Times, January 19, 2011.

A final word from Dr. Grace Vuoto, Executive Director of the Edmund Burke Institute for American Renewal:

“There is nothing merciful about mercy killing: it is just another glorified way for the young and strong to discard those who are inconvenient. America is on the path to a war of all against all, as parents devour their children before they are born and children devour their parents as they are dying.”

From Polishing God’s Monuments: Pillars of Hope for Punishing Times by Jim Andrews:

Just as the Lord forewarned Moses, so the Scriptures forewarn us that the Christian life is not going to be a walk in the park, that we should not be surprised when fiery trials come upon us (1 Peter 4:12), that through many tribulations we must enter into the kingdom of God (Acts 14:22), that we should not expect the world to love us (John 15:20), that many are the afflictions of the righteous (Psalm 34:19; John 16:33), and that various trials are both necessary and beneficial for us (1 Peter 1:6 and James 1:2). Still, despite all we should know and be well prepared for, we sometimes react as though, in the words of 1 Peter 4:12, some strange and unaccountable things were happening to us.

My friends, if anyone is intent upon taking up his or her cross and following after Christ, put this down: the abnormal state of Christian existence on this planet is an untroubled life. And, the truth be told, a healthy, vital spiritual life can ill-afford untrammeled peace and prosperity for long.  For it is a law of life that all strength is born of resistance, not repose.  Andrews, p. 276

If you have not already read this entry by John Ensor on the Desiring God blog, please take a minute to do so.

I have lingered over these sentences in particular:

The blood-guilt of abortion festers under the surface of all Christian endeavor. It needs lancing. It needs to be outed. It needs to be called out by name, confessed by name, and brought under a gospel that declares that there is no forgiveness for the shedding of innocent blood except by the shedding of innocent blood.

Yes, Jesus is the answer to this incredible, horrible reality we live with.  The sin-cleansing blood of Jesus can cover even this, and set people free.

And we need to make sure that disability gets included in this ‘outing.’  There are Christian people who would say they are against abortion, but become ambivalent about it when the child is known to have a disability.

Ambivalence will not win the day. Ignorance will not win the day. The truth of God’s sovereignty over all things for the joy of all peoples through Jesus Christ – there is hope there!

Thank you, John Ensor, for another piercing, helpful, God-centered commentary.

From Contagious Christian Living by Joel Beeke, p. 85:

If God doesn’t leave his mark on you, you will not be blessed with lasting profit from your afflictions. We must learn to welcome both pain and progress in our walk with God, realizing that we learn more through affliction than prosperity. Both are part of the contagious price of God, for he is most worthy to fit us for service in this life and the life to come.

I think we can agree we have learned more through pain than prosperity.

Justin Taylor shared the story of a family experiencing deep pain yesterday: their 12-year-old son died in an accident.  If you have not seen it, please take a minute to read, cry and ask God for that kind of sustaining faith.