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From a sermon Pastor John gave in 1991, He Saw the Grace of God and Was Glad:

If anything is clear from the Bible it is this: the grace of God does not spare his people suffering in this age, but rather uses suffering to bring people to himself. The Son of God himself suffered to save people from condemnation. And now he turns suffering again and again for our good both in this age and in the age to come.

Two years ago I saw Joni Eareckson Tada, who is almost totally paralyzed from a swimming accident, lift her arms as high as she could in her braces and shout, “This is the prison where God set me free.” What she meant was that the pain and limitation and frustration brought on by her disability threw her back on God in such a way that she discovered what true freedom in life is all about—and it is not about arms and legs and skiing and jogging. It’s about forgiveness and hope and love and meaning and eternal life. It’s about knowing that God is for you and not against you even in suffering. That’s how grace becomes visible.

Amen!

People stare.

Which is why you should pray for the siblings of children with disabilities as much as you do for moms and dads.

My Hannah is a ferocious protector of her older brother.  She is known in our house as ‘she-who-can-do-no-wrong’ because Paul trusts her completely about everything.

Her antenna is tuned to any slight she thinks is headed his way.  She hates it when people stare at Paul or our family.

Several years ago when she first began to notice people staring, she would consider my explanation that people just weren’t used to seeing boys like Paul, and we needed to be patient and kind.  She could accept that children might stare, especially children younger than she was.  But she has never gotten used to adults staring.  “Adults should know better,” she once said to me.

Yes, they should.  How do I encourage her to be respectful of adults who behave badly or speak utter nonsense in their ignorance?  It is a struggle for me to lead my children well in this area, and I expect it will get even harder.

But she keeps finding ways to make her point without being combative.  Over the summer we visited a pool and two boys were very curious about Paul.  She simply took him in her lap and held him, clearly stating without words, “he is loved.  He is protected.  He is my brother.”

Thank you, Lord, for this girl and for this boy!

If that headline doesn’t make sense, go to Desiring God and listen to this week’s sermon, “Help the Children Love the Different People.

Here is what Pastor John had to say about disability in the context of this sermon:

So I am going to explicitly apply what I say to racial differences, and trust those of you for whom disability is a more immediate issue to listen between the lines and make the applications wherever they are appropriate.

You can also hear his remarks on this topic, from about minute 22 to 23, on the video at the link above.

I was already doing that, Pastor John, when you got to it on the video!  Noel gave you very good advice.  And you are right, your points are appropriate for those of us dealing with disability.

Tomorrow, a lesson I had to learn about staring, from how my daughter reacted to people staring at her brother.

First, Joe Eaton writes his post on suffering and the sovereignty of God last November.

On Wednesday I saw the final proofs of Krista Horning’s book, written with her mother Mary.  That book, Just the Way I Am, beautifully (through words and photographs) addresses God’s goodness and sovereignty in disability.  As the Lord wills, it will be in print in the coming months.  Watch for more information on that book here and elsewhere, because God has given us a book through Krista that does not currently exist on this issue.   I’ll have much more to say about that book when it is available.

And Friday I had lunch with a young man from Bethlehem Seminary who is considering working with the disability ministry.  His story was a good one, and told with humble authenticity and affections for Jesus Christ.  I walked away greatly encouraged.

There are others I could list!

God is up to something at Bethlehem on this issue of disability, and he’s calling young adults to the cause.  There is simply no merit to the thought that we must wait for credentials (as important as they are) or experience (as helpful as that is) to proclaim his goodness and sovereignty to the world.

Thus, I’m grateful to see the young adults picking up a mantle of leadership in this area.  Let us pray God continues to add to their number, because we need more!

Happy Birthday, Dad!

Never doubt the power of a believing father.

My dad was the first person to ‘get’ Paul’s inherent dignity and humanity as one of God’s intended creations.  He has never wavered in his affections for my boy.

And next week he turns 80!  Lord willing, we ‘surprised’ him yesterday with a family party.  And though I’m writing this on Friday, I already know what he said as soon as he saw any of us:  “where’s Grampa’s buddy!  There’s my Pauley-boy!”

Because Pastor John and Noel Piper have referenced The Works of God frequently in the past few days, God has brought a number of new readers.  I pray that God would provide something in this blog for you.

I decided to pause and point you to two posts that I believe best exemplify what we are trying to communicate here: that God is sovereign and good in all things, including disability.

I would also encourage you to take a look at our Disability Media section for other presentations on God, disability and the Bible.

I also deeply appreciate comments.  All are read, and frequently prayed for.  When questions come up, I try to respond, but simply cannot do so in every case.  Thank you for understanding, and please comment with each other!

Disability is hard.  Suffering is real.  God is greater.  He will meet every need:

And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. To our God and Father be glory forever and ever. Amen. Philippians 4:19-20

Thank you for joining us!

I came home the other day to find this on our family whiteboard:

Did you think I came up with posts for this blog all on my own?

With news of the earthquake in Haiti showing extraordinary devastation and loss of life (and long-term probably thousands with permanent disabilities), I recommend reading this Taste and See Article by Pastor John from 2005:

Tsunami and Repentence

Here is an excerpt:

(Jesus) himself stood on the sea and stopped the waves with a single word (Mark 4:39). Even if Nature or Satan unleashed the deadly tidal wave, one word from Jesus would have stopped it. He did not speak it. This means there is design in this suffering. And all his designs are wise and just and good.

I was blown away, again, by God’s purposes in healing the paralytic of his disability:

“But that you may know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins”—he said to the paralytic— “I say to you, rise, pick up your bed, and go home.” (Mark 2:10-11)

Do you feel the earth move at that statement?  Healing this man of his disability was certainly a good and kind thing, but it was not the main thing.  Jesus’ authority to forgive sins is the main thing.  And he healed him “that you may know” that Jesus has this authority.  This knowledge is a kindness extended to everyone, not just the one man who was healed.

So, it is good to fight the temptation to make physical healing the main thing in our relationship with Jesus.

And we see another example of this authority in John 5:1-18, the healing at the pool of Bethesda.  Pastor John helpfully provided this statement in a sermon on that passage:

Jesus seeks out the man in the temple and tells him the real issue in his healing. “Afterward Jesus found him in the temple and said to him, ‘See, you are well! Sin no more, that nothing worse may happen to you.’” What’s the issue? The issue is holiness mainly, not health. “I have healed you to make you holy.”

I pray earnestly for my wife, that God would continue to hold her cancer at bay.  Praying for healing is a very good  and appropriate thing.  But it is a good thing only because it is subordinate to the main thing: Jesus Christ, my savior and my God.

I follow Noel Piper (and you should, too), but got behind and just recently saw the video that she posted last week:  Made in God’s Image.  It is a beautiful video.  That young man is amazing and that father is the kind of father I want to be.

But after watching it I allowed my mind to wander to things that are not good for me:

  • Wouldn’t it be great if my anophthalmic boy could do those same things?
  • Boy, I wish I could talk to my son like that dad can talk to his son.
  • This whole disability thing is just rotten.
  • I think I deserve better than this.

You can see where it was headed.

Thankfully, it was just a moment.  I have had seasons where I went on for a very long time in self-pity and bitterness.  God was merciful that he didn’t let it go on longer as he quickly convicted me of my sin of not trusting in him and looking to him as perfect and sure provider of all my needs.

God’s word is more than just helpful in those moments; it is decisive:

Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God. Hebrews 12:1-2

So, once again, God humbled me, convicted me, and carried me at the same time.  He is truly awesome beyond description.