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Disability manifests itself in a thousand different ways.  Sometimes a child matures as he should physically, but cognitively never develops.  Sometimes a child’s mind thinks clearly, but her body has significant physical differences.  And some children experience both.

My boy is one who will never develop either physically or cognitively.  Things can be hard for him at times.  He can’t tell us where things hurt when he’s sick, or why he’s frustrated.  We frequently don’t know why he’s laughing, either.  For some reason, spontaneous laughter doesn’t rise up temptations to worry like other behaviors do!

And God, in his kindness, lets me be comforted by his word at unexpected moments.

On Friday, Dr. Mark Struck used this passage from Matthew 11:25-30 in his devotions with Desiring God’s staff.  Jesus is talking to the Father, and we get the help and encouragement:

At that time Jesus declared, “I thank you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth, that you have hidden these things from the wise and understanding and revealed them to little children; yes, Father, for such was your gracious will. All things have been handed over to me by my Father, and no one knows the Son except the Father, and no one knows the Father except the Son and anyone to whom the Son chooses to reveal him.  Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

It was a sweet word for me.  Jesus knows it all.  Jesus has ALWAYS known it all.  ALL things have been handed over to Jesus by the Father.  Jesus promises rest for ALL he has chosen.

My boy is known completely, and he has been from before creation.  Jesus knew what he was doing when my Paul’s life was prepared, for God’s glory and for the good of God’s church.

A good word from Pastor John for dads – from 1982!  You can read the entire article here.

Please also note: while the suggestions remain as relevant today as they did 28 years ago, some of the details have changed.  The Christian Action Council is now known as Care Net.  And I’m hoping that baby in number five is 28 years old!

Dad’s let’s do something! Here are five modest suggestions:

  1. Trust so fully in the all-sufficiency of Christ that you never have or encourage the attitudes of fear or self-indulgence that cause abortions. Faith casts out fear and fosters love for the helpless.
  2. Don’t even entertain the possibility of an abortion for your wife. Many women are pressured into abortions by husbands who did not want another child. Don’t ever do that!
  3. Teach your children that the pride which kills helpless life is an abomination in the eyes of God. Show them that a human being is the one creature on earth with the potential of consciously glorifying God through faith, and therefore unwarranted killing is an assault on the glory of God.
  4. Keep informed about legislation that will provide protection under law for the unborn children who cannot protect themselves. Write for the Christian Action Council Newsletter at 422 C Street N.E., Washington, D.C. 20002. Or: Twin Cities Christian Action Council, 14810 Lloyds Drive, Minnetonka, 55343.
  5. Support ministries to young women who make the decision to keep an unexpected pregnancy. For example, GMAE has both a Crisis Pregnancy Line & New Life Homes/Family Services. Or call Faith Jaeger, Bethlehem member. She works with young, unwed mothers. Right now she has a need for a home for 3 weeks for a young mother and new baby.

As we approach Father’s Day weekend, some of the verses that mention fathers and disability close together seem to become more obvious.  Consider this series of verses from Deuteronomy 27:

“‘Cursed be anyone who dishonors his father or his mother.’ And all the people shall say, ‘Amen.’

“‘Cursed be anyone who moves his neighbor’s landmark.’ And all the people shall say, ‘Amen.’

“‘Cursed be anyone who misleads a blind man on the road.’ And all the people shall say, ‘Amen.’

“‘Cursed be anyone who perverts the justice due to the sojourner, the fatherless, and the widow.’ And all the people shall say, ‘Amen.’

Deuteronomy 27:16-19

A curse is a serious thing.  It leads to eternal destruction!  It is kind that God warns those who might be tempted to abuse someone with a disability – a curse will fall upon you from God himself!  And it is a grace for those who live with disability – God sees everything and justice will come.

Gregg Harris is well-known in Christian home-schooling circles.  Some credit him with starting the movement.  Today he also known as the father of the Christian leaders and authors, Josh, Alex, and Brett Harris.

But many don’t know that he started out life facing potentially deadly health complications:

Their little boy had three very serious internal birth defects.  For there to be any hope of his survival, he had to undergo three major surgeries within forty-eight hours of his birth.  In 1952 the procedures were dangerous, bordering on experimental.  If he survived, the doctors said, he probably wouldn’t make it past six years old.  And if he did, he would be confined to a wheelchair and need constant care. (Josh Harris, Dug Down Deep, p. 121).

And the impact on his mother?

Caring for him consumed every ounce of her energy, leaving her physically and emotionally exhausted.  Worse of all she was alone in the endeavor.  Grandpa couldn’t handle his son’s disability. . .

The daily stress was almost too much for Grandma to handle.  She contemplated suicide.  “I know that’s wrong,” she told God. And when she thought of little Gregg, she knew she had to keep living, if only for him.  “My life is like a jigsaw puzzle that’s all confused, and I can’t put it together,” she prayed.  “God, only you can fix this.” (Harris, pp. 121-2)

Doctors making pronouncements about the kind of life the child would have. A father who can’t stand to be around his son because of his disability.  A mom living on the edge for years.  A boy who suffers cruelty and embarrassment because of his disability.

Does this sound at all familiar?

This is the kind of child that abortionists would target and proponents of infanticide would say is better to kill – think of all the suffering that could be avoided!  Think of the marriage!  Think of the mom’s mental health!  Deadly, and effective, lies.

To be sure, the suffering is real.  But that is only one part of any story that God is writing.

And today Gregg Harris continues to have influence in the church and has raised boys to adulthood who write helpful books, like Dug Down Deep and Do Hard Things.

Not every story turns out like that, of course.  Our son Paul won’t be writing any books or raising any famous sons.  But God knows exactly why he made Gregg Harris and Paul Knight the way he did, and that is good enough for them to be allowed to live.

My google reader pointed me to the national gathering of denomination with ‘Reformed’ in its name that is meeting this week.  Part of the national gathering included a report of  their disability ministry council and its strategies and desired outcomes by 2013.

It was boring.

I don’t mean that as an indictment on their work at all.  I’ve done it myself; I’ve fallen into that same trap of feeling like the group I’m involved in needs to produce outcomes of significance, with time lines and measurements of progress.

And most of the time, when I visit denominational websites or read their papers on disability ministry, I end up with very little I can actually sink my teeth into with regards to the real issues in our church.

Let me repeat – I’m glad people care about this issue and are willing to put the time in.  Without meeting any of those volunteers who served on that disability ministry council, I know they deeply desire something better for the churches in their denomination with regards to people with disabilities.

But the end result is pronouncements about numbers and activities that have almost nothing to do with the life of a particular church, and even less so to do with individual people in those churches.

There was one interesting thing embedded in the council’s report: a story about a church plant specifically for people with disabilities in an area that included a number of group homes serving adults with disabilities.

Not to read too much into it, but I think they did two things right in creating that church:  1) They had a real need in front of them; they listened to the passion of a mother with an adult son with disabilities who had never had a good church experience, and 2) they went ahead and did something about it, without waiting for the denomination’s disability ministry council to lead the way.

I’m probably biased because that is how things have gone at Bethlehem with our little ministry.  A family shows up, and we try to figure out how to serve them.  Sometimes it goes really well from the beginning.  Sometimes the road is very difficult, and nothing seems to work.  God is continually humbling and holding us up at the same time.

In the end, I don’t want to be too hard on that denomination because at least they have a disability ministry council, which shows their concern for the issue.  The denomination that Bethlehem belongs to has exactly zero documents on this subject at the moment, and certainly no councils, task forces or committees.  At this moment, I must admit almost no desire to encourage them to do otherwise or get involved even if they called for the formation of their own council.  Which again speaks to my own biases about how I think things get accomplished!

If Converge/BGC were to call for such a council, would you serve on it?

Krista Horning will be at the Maple Grove branch of Northwestern Bookstores this Saturday, June 19, from 1:00 – 3:00 p.m.

Click here for directions.

If you are in the area, please come!

A 2 1/2 minute video from Andrea Bocelli, internationally acclaimed tenor and blind since the age of 12, on a choice his mother faced.

I am glad to use this famous singer’s testimony about his mother to encourage more women “in those moments when life is complicated” to let their babies live.

Of course, things have turned out pretty well for Mr. Bocelli.  Most of us won’t experience that, or even close to it.  Doctors know that.  Mothers-to-be know that.

So we should cling to something better – the righteousness of Jesus Christ:

May you be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy, giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in light.  He has delivered us from the domain of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of his beloved Son, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.

He is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of all creation. For by him all things were created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities—all things were created through him and for him.  And he is before all things, and in him all things hold together. And he is the head of the body, the church. He is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead, that in everything he might be preeminent.

Colossians 1:11-18

Yes, disability is included in the ‘all things!’

Tim Challies recently stated on a podcast that when he sees a child with Down syndrome, he assumes the family is Christian.  Why?  Because so many children with Down syndrome are not allowed to be born.

Al Mohler wrote yesterday (scroll down almost to the bottom) on two recent articles that Dr. Peter Singer wrote, one for the New York Times and one for the Guardian.  I agree with Dr. Mohler’s opinion about Dr. Singer:

Professor of Bioethics at Princeton University, Peter Singer is one of the most reprehensible intellectual forces alive today.

And yesterday I read that scientists have found a genetic link for autism.  Even if it does explain only 3% of autism diagnoses, it is a beginning to unraveling the mystery that is autism.  I’m all for unraveling mysteries and helping more kids.  But one significant result of better knowledge about Down syndrome is that more kids with Down syndrome are being killed before they are born.

What you believe about God matters a lot here.

Much more comes to mind with all the above news, especially about Peter Singer’s new idea (mostly tongue-in-cheek and simply meant to provoke, I’m guessing) that this generation of human beings be the last generation.

But this one thought kept coming to mind as these articles swirled around in my head:

Is the church ready for what’s coming concerning our children with disabilities?  Is the church preparing people right now for the suffering they will experience when a child is diagnosed with a disability?

In one sense, yes.  University professors like Dr. Singer have been mocking the notion of a transcendent, sovereign God for centuries.  Our most recent murderous decades with abortion were preceded by the murderous eugenics movement by almost a century.  The church is still here, and God continues to call some to stand against such evils and some to live with disability in their families.

But it seems like it is coming faster and sooner than before.  Prenatal diagnoses of increasing numbers and types of disabilities are becoming more common.  Rates of abortion for children with disabilities are at stunning levels.  Men and women can take tests to determine the likelihood of their conceiving a child with certain disabilities, with the assumption that this is not to prepare them to raise a child, but to help them avoid having such children.

We need the church to help their people now, before the diagnosis comes.  What we believe about God and other people and how we spend our lives is at stake:

The ultimate purpose of the universe is to display the greatness of the glory of the grace of God. The highest, clearest, surest display of that glory is in the suffering of the best Person in the universe for millions of undeserving sinners. Therefore, the ultimate reason that suffering exists in the universe is so that Christ might display the greatness of the glory of the grace of God by suffering in himself to overcome our suffering and bring about the praise of the glory of the grace of God.

O Christian, remember what Carl Ellis and David Powlison and Mark Talbot and Steve Saint and Joni Eareckson Tada said: they all, in their own way, said that whether we are able or disabled, enduring loss or delighting in friends, suffering pain or savoring pleasure, all of us who believe in Christ are immeasurably rich in him and have so much to live for. Don’t waste your life. Savor the riches that you have in Christ and spend yourself no matter the cost to spread your riches to this desperate world.

Pastor John Piper, from The Suffering of Christ and the Sovereignty of God at the 2005 Desiring God National Conference.

In the course of my work I communicate with many people.  And because I work for Desiring God, frequently those communications get very serious, very quickly.

Yesterday was such a day.  A brother Christian living far away told me of suffering in his life.  The suffering was significant, immediate, and intense.

And his joy was real as well.  He knows what it is to be free in Jesus, and to live with future hope.

That served as a reminder to me to cling to real things, like the Bible, and not to temporary things, like circumstances.

And that also brought to mind one of Pastor John’s best presentations on suffering and the sovereignty of God, from the 2005 Desiring God National Conference.  Here is just one excerpt among many I could have chosen:

The approach I am going to take tonight is not to solve any problem directly, but to celebrate the sovereignty of God over Satan and all the evils that Satan has a hand in. My conviction is that letting God speak his word will awaken worship—like Job’s—and worship will shape our hearts to understand whatever measure of God’s mystery he wills for us to know. What follows is a celebration of “Ten Aspects of God’s Sovereignty Over Suffering and Satan’s Hand in It.” And what I mean in this message when I say that God is sovereign is not merely that God has the power and right to govern all things, but that he does govern all things, for his own wise and holy purposes.

Then in each of his ten points, Pastor John uses the Bible to illuminate what he means:

This is why Christ’s healings are a sign of the in-breaking of the Kingdom of God and its final victory over all disease and all the works of Satan. It is right and good to pray for healing. Christ has purchased it in the death of his Son, with all the other blessings of grace, for all his children (Isaiah 53:5). But he has not promised that we get the whole inheritance in this life. And he decides how much. We pray and we trust his answer. If you ask your Father for bread, he will not give you a stone. If you ask him for a fish, he will not give you a serpent (see Matthew 7:9-10). It may not be bread. And it may not be a fish. But it will be good for you. That is what he promises (Romans 8:28).

You can listen to the entire conference message here:  Ten Aspects of God’s Sovereignty Over Suffering and Satan’s Hand In It by John Piper

Or go to the link for the video here.

A very big thank you to Noel Piper for pointing me to Monday’s posting at Worship Matters: Resources for Leading Worship by Bob Kauflin.

His blog posting was Song for Those with Disabilities.

Please pause right now and listen to it:  Song for Those with Disabilities – by Bob Kauflin

Here are the words:

Within the womb I formed you
I fashioned and made each part
I thought of your fingers, your hands and your feet
Your mouth, your lungs, your heart
Though you might think that you’re different
I made you the way that you are
So you could discover the God who made you
And find out all I am

And though you might think you have limitations
There are no limits with me
When you turn your eyes to my salvation
Finally you will see

In Me, you have all that you need
In Me, you have all that you need
In Me, you have all that you’ll ever need.

And I’ve heard each prayer that you’ve called out
“Why did you make me this way?”
You may not completely understand now
But there will be a day
When I make everything known to you
And what you don’t now understand
You will see that I’m wise and I’m mighty and good
Just like all my plans
And if you trust in the work of my Son
One day you will see
That I’ve made you the way you are
To draw your heart to me
To draw your heart to me.

Please forward around to let more people know about this beautiful statement about God and disability set to music.

Thank you, Lord, for giving Bob Kauflin this beautiful song full of Bible and affections for you!