I was given the privilege of a few minutes with a man God has made into a great man of the faith. Mitch Pearson lost his wife to cancer just a few months ago; God is sustaining and helping him. God is his hope. I am greatly encouraged when I see men standing on the promises of God.
He shared some of the bad advice he’s been given by well-meaning people. Having experienced both cancer and disability in my family, some of it was familiar, such as people granting us a license to sin in bitterness or anger or selfishness or immorality because of the circumstances we live with.
Paul would have none of that. And he knew more than a little about suffering.
Yet he wrote boldly to the Colossians in how they should behave toward their sin and toward each other:
3 Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. 6 On account of these the wrath of God is coming. 7 In these you too once walked, when you were living in them. 8 But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth. 9 Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices 10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator. 11 Here there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave, free; but Christ is all, and in all. Colossians 3:3-11
Yes, disability is hard. Yes, people don’t “get it” and say or do foolish, hurtful things. Everywhere I look – church, home, school, work – something could be improved or people could behave better or . . . . .
Paul’s response: all of this is true. Now, kill your own sin. Put away your anger and malice toward others. Stop your grumbling. And bear with one another.
My response: that’s impossible.
Paul’s reply: of course it is impossible.
7 For the mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God’s law; indeed, it cannot. 8 Those who are in the flesh cannot please God. Romans 8:7-8
But with Christ, all things are possible:
9 You, however, are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if in fact the Spirit of God dwells in you. Anyone who does not have the Spirit of Christ does not belong to him. 10 But if Christ is in you, although the body is dead because of sin, the Spirit is life because of righteousness. Romans 8:9-10
And we do not fight in our own wisdom or strength or ability. We are God’s!
12 Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, 13 bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. 14 And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. 15 And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. 16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. 17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. Colossians 3:12-17
Malice is my particular temptation out of that list above. My antenna are acutely tuned to any sort of bad behavior against my boy on the part of others; I’m ready to assign bad motives immediately. And I’ll nurse that malice, quietly feeding it while harboring murderous thoughts. And that doesn’t make much of Christ, even if I ‘deserve’ better. Which, of course, I don’t.
Ironically, when I ask God for help in killing my sin, I become a better advocate for my son and for changes I hope God would provide in the situations and institutions around me.
Thank you, Mitch, for standing on promises of God above your hard circumstances. Thank you for encouraging me to kill my own sin.
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“Parents and Doctors Together Should Be Able to Choose that the Child Should Not Live” – Dr. Peter Singer
Posted in commentary, Scripture on September 1, 2010| 4 Comments »
Dr. Peter Singer, in his own words, on infanticide and parents deciding the fate of their already-born children with disabilities (unfortunately, the audio and video get out of synch):
We should not quickly dismiss this man or his adherents. He is an intelligent, well-spoken person, highly regarded for his philosophical integrity and his passionate commitment to animals. He holds an important chair at Princeton, is widely sought out as a speaker, and frequently writes for influential publications like The New Times.
And in this short clip he is laying out a way of thinking that is very dangerous, most directly to children with disabilities but also to their families.
Under the guise of parental rights (who could be against that?), he allows parents and doctors together to make the best decision they can for a child with disabilities and their families. He even believes they should go out and consult with other families raising children with similar disabilities. It all sounds very reasonable, even humane.
But he is articulating an important and potentially deadly switch in how to think about children.
He is suggesting that parents will need to justify the existence of their child with disabilities AFTER the child is born.
There is no inherent dignity or personhood granted to this helpless, living baby – only if the parents choose to grant it, and really, only as long as whoever is powerful allows the parents to grant it.
And for those parents who choose to let their child live? Society no longer has a responsibility for one of its members; it is left entirely to the family.
Sentimental arguments about the benefits we experience as parents of children with significant disabilities will not carry this day. Dr. Singer has introduced the idea that everything is simply in the world of options and choices, with the powerful left to make those choices freely unencumbered by larger ideas or ideals of responsibility to the weaker. If you choose to keep your child because of some perceived gain in happiness or satisfaction, other parents can equally decide to kill that child for the same reasons. Every choice has equal standing, rather than every little human member, who has no standing until it is granted by some other human being.
Society is already training us in what we should do with a pre-born child when a disability is discovered. With abortion rates as high as they are for children with certain kinds of disabilities, we know this includes couples who would call themselves Christians.
Parents are already finding they must justify their decision to let their child live when abortion was still an option. Dr. Singer’s thinking about who gets to make important decisions about other human beings is winning in our culture, even if his specific ideas about infanticide are still considered abhorrent today.
Yesterday I quoted from Psalm 127 in which the Psalmist speaks of children as a reward. Psalm 139 points to God’s sovereign work in ‘knitting together’ these children in the womb. God himself shows us how to think about the most vulnerable amongst us.
So let us engage the right arguments for those who would kill these precious ones. Peter Singer’s appeal to prideful, arrogant indulgence of the powerful against the weak is the real battleground. Only Jesus will ultimately win that war. That applies to my own heart as well as all its manifestations in society.
Let us not win a battle against infanticide only to lose the war against our children’s inherent dignity granted by a sovereign, loving God.
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