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Several mothers of children with disabilities from Bethlehem gathered at our home last week.  Caryn Turner organizes these regular gatherings, which rotate to different homes.

For this gathering she used Greg Lucas’ book, Wrestling with an Angel, to help guide and generate discussion.  Dianne (who has read the book) was struck again by this statement:

I hear religious-minded people say all the time with good intentions, “God will never place a burden on you so heavy that you cannot carry it.”

Really?

My experience is that God will place a burden on you so heavy that you cannot possibly carry it alone. He will break your back and your will. He will buckle your legs until you fall flat beneath the crushing weight of your load. All the while He will walk beside you waiting for you to come to the point where you must depend on Him.

(That quote is part of the first chapter, which can be read in its entirety here)

That may not sound like good news at first – but it is actually the best news there has ever been.

Read the chapter, then buy and read the book.  Especially if you are a man.  You may never think about God the same way again.

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As frequently happens, God was getting me ready for Sunday’s sermon through an entirely unexpected avenue.

I was pointed to Cassie McLellend’s blog posting on Saturday evening and was gripped by several things she had to write, all of which are in quotes below:

It upsets me that doctors tell woman awful, terrifying things about their baby and then push them toward abortion.  We were told horrible things when we found out Caleb had SB, and we were “offered” termination at least 4 times.  I remember the doctor being shocked that we had no intention of aborting.

This is an example of the cultural weight against our children with disabilities.  Are parents really making an informed choice, or are their natural fears, limited information, and trust in experts guiding them?

I don’t mean any of this to be hurtful to someone who has had an abortion.  My heart breaks for the women who made that choice or felt like they had to make that choice.

What a reminder; this broke my heart for a different reason.  I spend a great deal of time and thought on arguments against abortion, especially addressing those in leadership who support this horrible practice: pastors, seminary and university professors, government leaders.  I have assumed people will understand I have a high level of care for the mothers involved.  But as I reviewed my own blog posts, I couldn’t see much evidence of that care.  This point that Cassie made, in particular, prepared me for Pastor John’s sermon; my heart was wide open when he came to his example of the university sophomore.

On another note, I have decided NOT to make this blog private.  At least not now.  I hate the thought that a parent expecting a child with SB might miss out on seeing this blog, seeing how wonderful Caleb is, because I decided to go private.  I wish I knew about blogs like mine when I was pregnant with Caleb.  It would have made a world of difference.

YES!  This young man stands as evidence of grace.  He has purpose and is already impacting people’s lives for the sake of the kingdom.  And from the comments to her post, Cassie has a broad audience and is helping guide people into different kinds of questions.  I’m grateful for this example.

And Greg Lucas has updated his blog as well.  I continue to learn new things every time he writes.  He reminds me that in the midst of extraordinary suffering, God demonstrates his power and mercy and grace.

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R.C. Sproul on Romans 8:28:

God, in his providence, has the power and the will to work all things together for good for his people.  This does not mean that everything that happens to us is, in itself, good.  Really bad things do happen to us. They are only proximately bad; they are never ultimately bad.  That is, they are bad only in the short (proximate) term, never in the long term. Because of the triumph of God’s goodness in all things, he is able to bring good for us out of the bad.  He turns our tragedies into supreme blessings.

R.C. Sproul, in Be Still, My Soul: Embracing God’s Purpose and Provision in Suffering, edited by Nancy Guthrie, p. 47.

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The Rev. Dr. Kendyl Gibbons recently wrote in the Star Tribune about abortion:

About 15 to 20 percent of known pregnancies end in spontaneous abortion (before the 20th week of gestation) or miscarriages (after the 20th week). The failure of conception to result in a live birth is a common and natural event.

There’s no reason why human aspiration and necessity shouldn’t also be a factor in determining whether or not a particular pregnancy is brought to term by potential parents.

We don’t hesitate to intervene drastically in the normal biological process in the service of achieving or sustaining conception when a child is desired. It’s equally legitimate to intervene when a child is not intended.

I’m really not certain what Rev. Gibbons was trying to communicate through this example of spontaneous abortion and miscarriage.  It fails to add anything to the issue of abortion, which is about the purposeful, active destruction of unborn human beings by other human beings.

And equating miscarriage with abortion is just cruel.  We have experienced miscarriage – those little human beings were very much wanted.

In the end, Rev. Gibbons is simply offering the same, tired argument that comes up whenever we become untethered from standards given to us by the One who is eternally wise, knowledgeable and good.  “Human aspiration and necessity” is completely defined by those who are stronger than those who are weak, or in this case, entirely defenseless.  There is no assumed sacrifice for the sake of the weaker person; there is no dependency on God.  Only raw, violent, pride-filled, arrogant power dressed up in modern language.

On the contrary, God tells us that the weak are indispensable (1 Corinthians 12:22) and that fathers should show compassion to their children (Psalm 103:13).  Jesus, the Lord of the universe, told us that “I am among you as the one who serves (Luke 22:27b).”  This eternal standard considers the needs of the weak.

The Rev. Dr. Gibbons is a minister of the First Unitarian Society of Minneapolis, so I know she does not consider the Bible to have authority.  But I assume she uses the term ‘Reverend’ to demonstrate some religious authority to instruct or lead others.  If that is the case, she may want to consider the higher standard that is applied to those who teach:

Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness. James 3:1

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From John MacArthur’s sermon, Jesus Opens Blind Eyes, delivered December 13, 1970 on John 9:1-12:

And Jesus says that in effect in verse 3, and it’s an important statement that He makes in verse 3, He says this, “Neither hath this man sinned, nor his parents.” You see, all suffering is not a result of sin necessarily. It doesn’t have to be. “But this man is blind that the works of God should be made…what?…manifest in him.” He’s not blind because of sin, this man is a prepared vessel, he is a miracle waiting to happen (emphasis mine). Kind of exciting, isn’t it? He was born blind for one reason, so God’s glory could be seen in this healing by Jesus Christ. That’s why He was born blind…for the glory of God…sometimes is why suffering comes. You know, Job’s friends tried to tell him that the reason he was having such problems was because he was such a lousy person, such a sinner. And Job couldn’t figure it out. But it was all for God’s glory…sin had nothing to do with it and doesn’t here. Even affliction can be for the glory of God. All these things can happen for the glory of God and this was a prepared vessel, a miracle waiting to happen. This was a blind beggar sitting at a gate waiting for the time planned in eternity past that Jesus would pass by and manifest His glory by touching his eyes so he could see. Fantastic truth.

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When my sister introduced me to G.K. Chesterton more than 20 years ago, I had little idea how much he would influence how I read and think.

Recently I came across a piece he did on eugenics, which to his horror was rising in popularity at the turn of the 20th century, and even into the 1970’s had public proponents.  Like those who advocate for abortion, and seem to particularly advocate for it when a pre-born child is shown to have disabilities, much of that movement was based on ‘the good of society’ and the economic and psychological benefits to families.

Chesterton would have none of it, and pointed out the duplicity of asserting the ‘feeble-minded’ (those we would say today live with cognitive disabilities) bring harm to society or families when the real problem lay with those who violently force their will on others:

Even if I were a Eugenist, then I should not personally elect to waste my time locking up the feeble-minded. The people I should lock up would be the strong-minded.  I have known hardly any cases of mere mental weakness making a family a failure; I have known eight or nine cases of violent and exaggerated force of character making a family a hell.  If the strong-minded could be segregated it would quite certainly be better for their family and friends.  And if there is really anything to heredity, it would be better for posterity too. For the kind of egoist I mean is a madman in a much more plausible sense then the mere harmless ‘deficient’; and to hand on the horrors of anarchic and insatiable temperament is a much graver responsibility than to leave a mere inheritance of childishness. . .

Why do not the promoters of the Feeble-Minded Bill call at the many grand houses in town or country where such (strong-minded) nightmares notoriously are? Why do they not knock at the door and take the bad squire away?  Why do they not ring the bell and remove the dipsomaniac prize-fighter? I do not know; and there is only one reason I can think of, which must remain a matter of speculation.  When I was at school, the kind of boy who liked teasing half-wits was not the sort that stood up to bullies.

G.K. Chesterton, Eugenics and Other Evils, Cassell and Company, 1922, pp. 51-52.

That’s a straight shot directly into the evil that is the tyranny of the powerful over the powerless when we are not guided by higher, transcendent, universal principles.  Chesterton saw it clearly: the powerful were defining what was acceptable (and the ‘feeble-minded’ were not acceptable) and pronouncing judgment over those who could not defend themselves.

But, one might argue, we have become much more enlightened than 80 years ago.  We have laws and strict rules about bullying and teasing.  We have whole school programs dedicated to peace and conflict resolution.  We have rules and regulations to protect those with disabilities.  We have curb cuts and elevators and dedicated parking spaces. Our public face is very much different, so we must be different.

Unless one looks at the war against our most defenseless children in the womb.  We applaud the young man with Down syndrome who lives in a community, participates in Special Olympics and maybe holds a job – and eliminate more than 9 out of 10 children like him when Down syndrome is discovered in the womb.

What would Chesterton say about our public applause and our private, socially sanctioned, extraordinarily effective modern eugenics campaign?  What name can we give it but murderous hypocrisy?

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We’re headed out of town on Wednesday to participate in The Elisha Foundation’s winter retreat in Oregon.  The next few days will include some gems of comfort I’ve found, like this quote from Pastor John answering the question, “how can I comfort my brother whose daughter has cancer?”

“Our final comfort is that we are united to Jesus forever. Some die when they’re eight, some at eighteen, and some at eighty. But the comfort remains the same. Christ died for our sins. He rose again. He imparts to us everything we need to come to him and enjoy him forever.

Additionally, he will make up for every loss. The judge of all the earth will do right (Genesis 18:25), and he will reward us for every loss we’ve endured.”

John Piper, How can I comfort my brother whose daughter has cancer? April 2, 2008

 

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David Powlison helpfully unpacks what trusting God means in Psalm 28:

Consider David’s Psalm 28. “To you, LORD, I call. My Rock, do not be deaf to me. If you don’t answer me, I will die. Hear the voice of my supplications, my cry for help to you” (vv. 1-2, AT).

This is an example of what it means to “entrust your soul” to the sovereign God. It’s not sedate. David does not mentally rehearse the fact that God is in control in order to quietly press on with unflinching composure.

Instead, trust pleads candidly and believingly with God: “This is big trouble. You must help me. I need you. You are my only hope.” Prayer means “ask for something you need and want.” Supplication means “really ask.” Frank supplication is the furthest thing from keeping everything in perspective so you can move on with life as normal.

The sovereign God does not intend that you maintain the status quo while suffering. Pain disrupts normal. It’s supposed to disrupt normal. It’s supposed to make you feel a need for help.

Psalm 28 is not an orderly “quiet time.” It’s noisy and needy. When you let life’s troubles get to you, it gets you to the only one who can help. As Psalm 28 unfolds, David specifically names the trouble he’s in, what he’s afraid of, what he wants (vv. 3-5). His trust in God’s sovereignty moves to glad confidence (vv. 6-7). Finally, his faith works out into love as he starts interceding on behalf of others (vv. 8-9).

David Powlison, “God’s Grace in Your Sufferings,” in Suffering and the Sovereignty of God, John Piper and Justin Taylor, general editors, pp. 160-161.

 

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For some reason, Google has been bringing me a number of articles recently that deal with disability and anger.  It is a grace to realize I don’t live in that constant, debilitating state of anger at everything, including God, any longer.  God is very merciful.  And he continues to help me fight it today.

In our circles dealing with disability, being angry with God over our circumstances is common.  I won’t say universal as I have met people who did not struggle with anger towards God.  But they would have to be in the minority.

Pastor John dealt with this issue some years ago, and I’ve always appreciated how helpful it was.  So, here’s an excerpt from his article, Is It Ever Right to Be Angry at God?

This is why being angry at God is never right. It is wrong – always wrong – to disapprove of God for what he does and permits. “Shall not the Judge of all the earth do what is just?” (Genesis 18:25). It is arrogant for finite, sinful creatures to disapprove of God for what he does and permits. We may weep over the pain. We may be angry at sin and Satan. But God does only what is right. “Yes, O Lord God, the Almighty, true and righteous are Your judgments” (Revelation 16:7).

But many who say it is right to be angry with God really mean it is right to express anger at God. When they hear me say it is wrong to be angry with God, they think I mean “stuff your feelings and be a hypocrite.” That’s not what I mean. I mean it is always wrong to disapprove of God in any of his judgments.

But if we do experience the sinful emotion of anger at God, what then? Shall we add the sin of hypocrisy to the sin of anger? No. If we feel it, we should confess it to God. He knows it anyway. He sees our hearts. If anger at God is in our heart, we may as well tell him so, and then tell him we are sorry, and ask him to help us put it away by faith in his goodness and wisdom. (Emphasis mine)

When Jesus died on the cross for our sins, he removed forever the wrath of God from our lives. God’s disposition to us now is entirely mercy, even when severe and disciplinary (Romans 8:1). Therefore, doubly shall those in Christ turn away from the terrible specter of anger at God. We may cry, in agony, “My God, My God, where are you?” But we will follow soon with, “Into your hands I commit my spirit.”

No, this is not easy, especially when the air we breathe in our American culture tells us that we have the ‘right’ to be angry.  I’m thankful God is so much bigger than that and is ready to help us!

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J.I. Packer on grace:

Grace is God drawing us sinners closer and closer to himself.

How does God in grace prosecute this purpose? Not by shielding us from assault by the world, the flesh and the devil, nor by protecting us from burdensome and frustrating circumstances, nor yet by shielding us from troubles created by our own temperament and psychology; but rather by exposing us to all these things, so as to overwhelm us with a sense of our own inadequacy, and to drive us to cling to him more closely.  This is the ultimate reason, from our standpoint, why God fills our lives with troubles and perplexities of one sort and another: it is to ensure that we shall learn to hold him fast. The reason why the Bible spends so much of its time reiterating that God is a strong rock, a firm defense, and a sure refuge and help for the weak, is that God spends so much of his time bringing home to us that we are weak, both mentally and morally, and dare not trust ourselves to find or to follow, the right road.

J.I. Packer, Knowing God, InterVarsity Press, 1993, p. 250.

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