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Dianne won’t like me writing this, but I’m going to do it anyway.

She gave a great presentation to the MOMS (Making Our Mothering Significant) group at the Downtown campus on Tuesday.  I know it was recorded; I’ll point to it when it is available online.

It was God-honoring and ‘as sorrowful, yet always rejoicing.’ She told the truth about how hard it is, and how good God is.  She reminded those 35 or so moms where their real hope must be.

And I get to experience the blessing of that kind of wife!

She had shared her remarks with me before she spoke, but as she spoke I was reminded of something Pastor John had preached about and then wrote about.  It is a great description of Dianne:

The next thing to see about Christian womanhood, after hope in God, is the fearlessness that it produces in these women. So verse 5 says that the holy women of old hoped in God. And then verse 6 gives Sarah, Abraham’s wife, as an example and then refers to all other Christian women as her daughters. Verse 6: “And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.”

So this portrait of Christian womanhood is marked first by hope in God and then by what grows out of that hope, namely, fearlessness. She does not fear the future; she laughs at the future. The presence of hope in the invincible sovereignty of God drives out fear. Or to say it more carefully and realistically, the daughters of Sarah fight the anxiety that rises in their hearts. They wage war on fear, and they defeat it with hope in the promises of God.

Mature Christian women know that following Christ will mean suffering (2 Tim. 3:12). But they believe promises like 1 Peter 3:14, “But even if you should suffer for righteousness’ sake, you will be blessed. Have no fear of them, nor be troubled,” and 1 Peter 4:19, “Therefore let those who suffer according to God’s will entrust their souls to a faithful Creator while doing good.” That is what Christian women do: They entrust their souls to a faithful Creator. They hope in God. And they triumph over fear.

John Piper, This Momentary Marriage, pp. 97-98.

Is her (or my) first response always fearlessness?  Certainly not.  But I have seen her wage war on fear in the midst of some pretty frightening circumstances: disabled son, prematurely born son, Stage IV cancer. I know where her hope lies.

 

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Pastor John examines Psalm 147:11:  but the Lord takes pleasure in those who fear him, in those who hope in his steadfast love.

The reason our hope is a pleasure to God is because it shows that all our joy comes from the bounty of his grace. And the reason our prayers are a pleasure to God is because they express this God-exalting hope. It is a precious thing beyond all words – especially in the hour of death – that we have a God whose nature is such that what pleases him is not our work for him but our need of him.

John Piper, The Pleasures of God: Meditations on God’s Delight in Being God, pp. 215-216.

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From Polishing God’s Monuments: Pillars of Hope for Punishing Times by Jim Andrews:

Just as the Lord forewarned Moses, so the Scriptures forewarn us that the Christian life is not going to be a walk in the park, that we should not be surprised when fiery trials come upon us (1 Peter 4:12), that through many tribulations we must enter into the kingdom of God (Acts 14:22), that we should not expect the world to love us (John 15:20), that many are the afflictions of the righteous (Psalm 34:19; John 16:33), and that various trials are both necessary and beneficial for us (1 Peter 1:6 and James 1:2). Still, despite all we should know and be well prepared for, we sometimes react as though, in the words of 1 Peter 4:12, some strange and unaccountable things were happening to us.

My friends, if anyone is intent upon taking up his or her cross and following after Christ, put this down: the abnormal state of Christian existence on this planet is an untroubled life. And, the truth be told, a healthy, vital spiritual life can ill-afford untrammeled peace and prosperity for long.  For it is a law of life that all strength is born of resistance, not repose.  Andrews, p. 276

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From Contagious Christian Living by Joel Beeke, p. 85:

If God doesn’t leave his mark on you, you will not be blessed with lasting profit from your afflictions. We must learn to welcome both pain and progress in our walk with God, realizing that we learn more through affliction than prosperity. Both are part of the contagious price of God, for he is most worthy to fit us for service in this life and the life to come.

I think we can agree we have learned more through pain than prosperity.

Justin Taylor shared the story of a family experiencing deep pain yesterday: their 12-year-old son died in an accident.  If you have not seen it, please take a minute to read, cry and ask God for that kind of sustaining faith.

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The first time I read the ‘Any/Particular Distinction’ argument in defense of unborn children with disabilities, I knew it had to have its origins in a university or research institution.  It sounded academic, but it is built on a house of cards that cannot stand.

I don’t know if I’ve found the origins of that argument, but I have found a lengthy articulation.  While I have 116 notes on the book, Prenatal Testing and Disability Rights, there is really only one thought that needs to be addressed.  And rather than break it up into several posts, I’ll deal with it here and get back to happier things.

First, one positive aspect of this book that deserves attention.  Nearly all the contributors to this book recognize that the deck is stacked against parents making a truly informed decision about their child identified as having a disability before he or she is born.  The authors recognized that medical systems encourage abortion.  Many noted that we should spend more time and effort understanding several areas: the circumstances in our culture that encourage discrimination against people with disabilities; the wrong assumptions about the perceived quality of their lives; and the positive aspects of parenting a child with a disability.

That is helpful.  But they didn’t go nearly far enough.

And the core problem in their logic is that they granted a right to abortion even as they found selective abortions due to disability a problem worth addressing.

Adrienne Asch, Henry R. Luce Professor in Biology, Ethics, and the Politics of Human Reproduction at Wellesley College, wants to address the problem of selective abortion due to disability through the ‘Any/Particular Distinction.’  Here is how she describes it:

(T)his one characteristic of the embryo or fetus (disability) is the basis for the decision not to continue the pregnancy or to implant the embryo. That decision still concludes that one piece of information about a potential child suffices to predict whether the experience of raising that child will meet parental expectations. In most cases of preimplantation genetic diagnosis or prenatal diagnosis, the woman or couple desires to be pregnant at this time; the termination of the process only occurs because of something learned about this child. Adrienne Asch, Prenatal Testing and Disability Rights, p. 236

I completely agree with this aspect of Dr. Asch’s argument: many people do make the decision to abort simply on the basis of one piece of genetic information.

Unfortunately, the ‘Any/Particular Distinction’ is built on this foundation: abortion is acceptable when a woman chooses to abort for reasons unrelated to disability.  Only if disability is known does abortion become problematic.

And that is a terrible foundation.  If abortion is generally acceptable, the burden of creating exceptions is incredibly high.  And in this case, the exception that is desired simply doesn’t have any qualitative difference from the other reasons people choose to abort their babies.  For example:

  • Economics – relative financial security or ability, or perceived economic cost of the child, determines the acceptability of the child.
  • Number of Children – relative desire for family size (three children are acceptable and four are not; unless, of course, four are acceptable, or two, or six).
  • Timing – relative predictions about the future being a better time than now to have a child.
  • Parentage – having a child with this man’s genetics is unacceptable.
  • Sex – a desire for a girl after three boys; this unborn boy is unacceptable.
  • Disability – having a child with this physical genetic characteristic is unacceptable.

The list could go on.  And not one of them is based on principles, but in attempts to control an unknowable future.

One thing that isn’t relative about the list above – in every case, the child is dead.

Dr. Asch attempts to make the argument that because of how disability is perceived in this culture, there should be particular concerns for unborn children with disabilities to avoid selective abortions based exclusively on disability:

The property of ‘fourth-bornness’ (arguing against an assertion that a family who does not want a fourth child is similar to a family that does not want a child with disabilities) does not inhere in the fetus/child in the same way that disability does; the fourth-born child could just as easily have been the first or only child if adopted into another family. Moreover, being a fourth child, or even a family with four children, does not subject the child or the family to the invidious treatment that has marked the lives of people with disabilities. Asch, p. 237.

Invidious treatment is a definite problem. Living in a culture that hates disability is a definite problem as well.

But aborting a child simply because he is the fourth-born is also a problem!

Trying to carve out space where abortion is both acceptable (for ‘any’ child) and not acceptable (for this ‘particular’ child) will not address that societal issue about disability.  In fact, it won’t even save any babies with disabilities.  Parents will be offered other reasons, and the availability of abortion for THAT reason will result in the child being terminated.

After all, parents could choose an economic argument instead. There are real expenses related to most disabilities that typically-developing children do not incur.  So, the family has nothing against the child with the disability, but doesn’t want to bear the financial cost. (To be fair, Dr. Asch would say this demonstrates the problem she is trying to address; she argues that society should not expect families to bear all that cost, and this is further evidence that discrimination exists against people with disabilities.)  Or, parents could conclude, on further thought, having a third child really isn’t in their interests.  Or the timing of this pregnancy isn’t convenient, etc. etc.

The desire to protect unborn children with disabilities is laudable.  But leaving abortion as an acceptable option for other reasons simply moves the problem around and ultimately won’t protect these children.

Unfortunately, abortion is settled for most of the contributors of that book.  Another contributor, Dr. Steven Ralston stated it clearly:

I am pro-choice and I believe all women and couples should have the right to and access to abortion services regardless of their motivations. Period. Asch, p. 339.

Lest you think he was just being dogmatic in his beliefs, I found most of his chapter to be nuanced and thoughtful, which makes the above statement even more sad.  For example he also wrote:

I found myself continually questioning my underlying assumptions about prenatal diagnosis, genetic testing, parenthood, families and disability.  I wouldn’t say I was thrown into an existential crisis, but I certainly spent a lot of energy trying to resolve what for me was clearly a conflict: my belief that society would be better if it were more tolerant and accepting of those with different abilities and needs, and my belief that insofar as the world is not yet ideal, the decision to terminate a pregnancy with an abnormal fetus is reasonable.

He’s right about the conflict; those are two contradictory beliefs.

Unfortunately, his belief system is ultimately about a radical, unconstrained self-determination of the powerful, granting big people ultimate authority over tiny people.  How else to describe his conclusion about abortion “regardless of motivations”?  Even Dr. Asch includes ‘parental expectations’ as part of her argument even though no parent has ever accurately predicted what parenting would be like.

Those are not principles upon which anything can stand.

Self-determination leads to death, not just through abortion but in an eternal sense. “For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23)” and “the wages of sin is death (Romans 6:23)” and “For the mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God’s law; indeed, it cannot (Romans 8:7).”

There is an eternal answer!  “BUT GOD, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved (Ephesians 2:4-5).”

And it is that God who supplies every need for families in our situations (Philippians 4:19), who truly knows the ends from the beginnings (Revelation 21:6), and who has plans to benefit us (Jeremiah 29:11).

In fact, the best argument of all is that because we are weak and unable to control or predict the future we should welcome our children with disabilities into our families, churches and society.  God himself has regard for the weak, will fulfill every promise he has made, and longs for us to enjoy him forever.

Because only God is truly strong and wise and knows the future, our weakness becomes a strong argument against aborting our children with disabilities – or any children.

So, I admit to being grateful for a secular argument being raised against aborting our children with disabilities.  But it does not have the power to save the little ones, nor does it have the power to save for eternal life.  And I fear in the end it actually makes it worse.

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I hate the health, wealth and prosperity gospel. Pastor John does as well:

In D.A. Carson’s book, How Long, O Lord? Reflections on Suffering and Evil, Carson goes directly at the question of sin, sickness and death.  These are hard subjects, but he looks at them through a Biblical lens.

And in a few short sentences, he puts a dagger into the health, wealth and prosperity gospel on one of their worst principles – that God will automatically give us what we want if we just have enough faith:

Practically speaking, this means that it is almost always wrong, not to say pastorally insensitive and theologically stupid, to add to the distress of those who are suffering illness, impending death, or bereavement, by charging them with either: a) some secret sin they have not confessed, or b) inadequate faith, for otherwise they would certainly have been healed. The first charge wrongly assumes that there is always a link between a specific ailment and a specific sin; the second wrongly assumes that it is always God’s will to heal any ailment, instantly, and he is blocked from doing so only by inadequate or insufficient faith.  D.A. Carson, How Long, O Lord?, p. 101.

Personally, nobody has ever hinted at a) in my presence, and usually just the opposite (citing John 9:3).  But I’ve heard hints of b) a few times.  Neither one is helpful.

Rather, let us hold tightly to Jesus in the midst of great suffering!  Jesus knows suffering.  And God knows what he is doing, and he wants us to ask him for help with our full knowledge that he will provide what is best for us.  So, let us continue to ask from the one who can supply and trust that he loves us to give us the best thing!

To repeat from yesterday something Pastor John wrote (emphases in bold mine):

But let us not tell Jesus what love is. Let us not instruct him how he should love us and make us central. Let us learn from Jesus what love is and what our true well-being is. Love is doing whatever you need to do to help people see and savor the glory of God forever and ever. Love keeps God central. Because the soul was made for God.

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Someday, my son will live without his disabilities, including these seizure-like episodes he is experiencing.  Someday, I will live free from all the temptation of sin.  We will both see clearly: For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known (1 Corinthians 13:12).

Those of us living with disability in our family are living in a gap.  We know that all of God’s promises are true, and we know that some of those promises will not be fulfilled for a very long time (probably).

I’m working my way though Joel Beeke and Jame LaBelle’s book, Living by God’s Promises, and came across this helpful paragraph (emphases in bold are mine):

Thus, if we steadfastly believe and rest on the foundational promise that God is our God, we will find more comfort than we could find in all the world.  David expresses this beautifully in Psalm 56:8-11: “Thou tellest my wanderings: put thou my tears into thy bottle: are they not in thy book? When I cry unto thee, then shall mine enemies turn back: this I know; for God is for me. In God will I praise his word: in the Lord will I praise his word. In God have I put my trust: I will not be afraid what man can do unto me.” Caught in the gap between God’s promise (1 Samuel 16:11-13) and its fulfillment, David finds a world of comfort in the foundational promise of God that God is for him.  Beeke and LaBelle, p. 17

Yes, even today I know that God is for me!  God is for all his children who have been called into saving faith!

There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1).

And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age (Matthew 28:20b).

And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees him nor knows him. You know him, for he dwells with you and will be in you (John 14:16-17).

Satisfy us in the morning with your steadfast love, that we may rejoice and be glad all our days. Psalm 90:14

Yes, I do find a world of comfort that God is for me right now even as I hope in future grace.

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Joel Beeke was a participant at the most recent Desiring God Conference for Pastors and is the author of many books, a couple of which I picked up this week.  In Living by God’s Promises, Beeke and LaBelle offer this nugget of assurance about prayer:

The promises of God are the rule of prayer. Just as we hope for and believe what God has promised, so we must pray for what God has promised. David makes this evident in 2 Samuel 7:27, when he prays, “For thou, O LORD of hosts, God of Israel, hast revealed to thy servant, saying, I will build thee an house: therefore hath thy servant found in his heart to pray this prayer unto thee” (cf. Luke 1:38). Having the promise of God in hand not only emboldened David’s hope and strengthened his faith, but it also fed and informed his prayer. Truly, we do not have a prayer without the promises of God (emphasis mine).

Beeke and LaBelle, pp. 2-3.

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A pitfall to trusting God, which we are prone to fall into, is to turn to God in trust in the greater crisis experience of life while seeking to work through the minor difficulties ourselves.  A disposition to trust in ourselves is part of our sinful nature.  It sometimes takes a major crisis, or at least a moderate one, to turn us toward the Lord.  A mark of Christian maturity is to continually trust the Lord in the minutiae of daily life.  If we learn to trust God in the minor adversities, we will be better prepared to trust him in the major ones.

Jerry Bridges in Trusting God, excerpted in Be Still My Soul, edited by Nancy Guthrie, p. 112.

Here’s a great 27 second video Jerry Bridges did for Desiring God last fall.  It highlights why we can trust in God through Jesus Christ:

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Dianne and I were reviewing some of what is happening around us the other evening.  It seems like nearly everyone we know is dealing with something really big and really hard – personally, professionally, ministerially, involving health or spouse or children or finances or systems or the consequences of somebody else’s sin.

Some are doubting their faith.  How to respond?

The paragraph below from Pastor John was helpful for me.  Luke 17:6 can be misapplied, even when intended as a comfort or as advice.  But for those hearing that verse it can feel more like an indictment against them – ‘you need to have faith like a mustard seed!’  The answer isn’t more faith and it certainly isn’t telling them simply to have faith (adding guilt on top of doubt).

Luke 17:5-6:  The apostles said to the Lord, “Increase our faith!” And the Lord said, “If you had faith like a grain of mustard seed, you could say to this mulberry tree, ‘Be uprooted and planted in the sea,’ and it would obey you.”

He strengthens our faith by telling us in verse 6 that the crucial issue in accomplishing great things to advance the Kingdom of God is not the quantity of our faith, but the power of God.  He says, “If you had faith like a grain of mustard seed, you could say to this mulberry tree, ‘Be uprooted and be planted in the sea,’ and it would obey you.”  By referring to the tiny mustard seed after being asked about increased faith, He deflects attention away from the quantity of faith to the object of faith (emphasis mine).  God moves mulberry trees.  And it does not depend decisively on the quantity of our faith, but on His power and wisdom and love. In knowing this, we are helped not to worry about our faith and are inspired to trust God’s free initiative and power.

John Piper, Pierced by the Word: Thirty-One Meditations for Your Soul, p. 99.

May we all remain fixed on the object of faith and the enduring hope we can have in His power and wisdom and love.

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