Feeds:
Posts
Comments

Archive for the ‘commentary’ Category

It isn’t unusual for me to have tears come to my eyes at church.  Usually it is in response to prayer, music or preaching.  

Yesterday morning, tears came as I looked at the bulletin:

      

Here’s what got me going:

The sermon will be posted at Desiring God on Monday.  As you can probably guess, I highly recommend it!

Read Full Post »

On this pro-life Sunday, please trust in God and his word more than technology.

My family has benefited greatly from research and scientific advancements.  And technologies like ultrasound are responsible for saving increasing numbers of babies.  But technology alone isn’t the answer if we want to protect the lives of unborn babies with disabilities:

The rate of TOPFA (termination of pregnancy for fetal anomaly) at all gestations and at less than 16 weeks increased significantly during the time of our study. . . This is likely to be due to the increasing sensitivity of screening programs for the detection of structural and chromosomal anomalies during this period. Serum screening and ultrasound imaging have both improved during this time. 

From “Termination of pregnancy for fetal anomaly: a population-based study 1995 to 2004,” published in BJOG: An International Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology, March 2007. 

What does that mean?  As technologies for diagnosing fetal anomalies improve, increasing numbers of babies with disabilities are aborted.

And of the 3189 cases they studied, 102 babies were born ALIVE following the abortion attempt: 

Of the 102 live births, the gestation ranged from 17 to 33 with a median of 21 weeks. The survival duration for liveborn TOPFAs was a median of 80 minutes. Thirty-seven cases survived for 1 hour or less and six cases survived 6 hours or more. . .  

The process of registration of a live birth and subsequent completion of a death certificate involves the professionals in additional duties and responsibilities with the involvement of the coroner’s office in some cases. The incentive therefore is very much to err on the side of not recording signs of life (emphasis mine) where any doubt exists. (From the same article cited above)

When medical professionals see paperwork as incentive ‘to err on the side of not recording signs of life,’ we know a line has been crossed.  

But we can always take heart!  Even for those doctors who believe they have been given god-like abilities, God himself is still in charge:

The king’s heart is a stream of water in the hand of the Lord;
he turns it wherever he will.

Proverbs 21:1

Read Full Post »

People stare.

Which is why you should pray for the siblings of children with disabilities as much as you do for moms and dads.

My Hannah is a ferocious protector of her older brother.  She is known in our house as ‘she-who-can-do-no-wrong’ because Paul trusts her completely about everything.

Her antenna is tuned to any slight she thinks is headed his way.  She hates it when people stare at Paul or our family.

Several years ago when she first began to notice people staring, she would consider my explanation that people just weren’t used to seeing boys like Paul, and we needed to be patient and kind.  She could accept that children might stare, especially children younger than she was.  But she has never gotten used to adults staring.  “Adults should know better,” she once said to me.

Yes, they should.  How do I encourage her to be respectful of adults who behave badly or speak utter nonsense in their ignorance?  It is a struggle for me to lead my children well in this area, and I expect it will get even harder.

But she keeps finding ways to make her point without being combative.  Over the summer we visited a pool and two boys were very curious about Paul.  She simply took him in her lap and held him, clearly stating without words, “he is loved.  He is protected.  He is my brother.”

Thank you, Lord, for this girl and for this boy!

Read Full Post »

First, Joe Eaton writes his post on suffering and the sovereignty of God last November.

On Wednesday I saw the final proofs of Krista Horning’s book, written with her mother Mary.  That book, Just the Way I Am, beautifully (through words and photographs) addresses God’s goodness and sovereignty in disability.  As the Lord wills, it will be in print in the coming months.  Watch for more information on that book here and elsewhere, because God has given us a book through Krista that does not currently exist on this issue.   I’ll have much more to say about that book when it is available.

And Friday I had lunch with a young man from Bethlehem Seminary who is considering working with the disability ministry.  His story was a good one, and told with humble authenticity and affections for Jesus Christ.  I walked away greatly encouraged.

There are others I could list!

God is up to something at Bethlehem on this issue of disability, and he’s calling young adults to the cause.  There is simply no merit to the thought that we must wait for credentials (as important as they are) or experience (as helpful as that is) to proclaim his goodness and sovereignty to the world.

Thus, I’m grateful to see the young adults picking up a mantle of leadership in this area.  Let us pray God continues to add to their number, because we need more!

Read Full Post »

Welcome to The Works of God!

Because Pastor John and Noel Piper have referenced The Works of God frequently in the past few days, God has brought a number of new readers.  I pray that God would provide something in this blog for you.

I decided to pause and point you to two posts that I believe best exemplify what we are trying to communicate here: that God is sovereign and good in all things, including disability.

I would also encourage you to take a look at our Disability Media section for other presentations on God, disability and the Bible.

I also deeply appreciate comments.  All are read, and frequently prayed for.  When questions come up, I try to respond, but simply cannot do so in every case.  Thank you for understanding, and please comment with each other!

Disability is hard.  Suffering is real.  God is greater.  He will meet every need:

And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. To our God and Father be glory forever and ever. Amen. Philippians 4:19-20

Thank you for joining us!

Read Full Post »

I was blown away, again, by God’s purposes in healing the paralytic of his disability:

“But that you may know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins”—he said to the paralytic— “I say to you, rise, pick up your bed, and go home.” (Mark 2:10-11)

Do you feel the earth move at that statement?  Healing this man of his disability was certainly a good and kind thing, but it was not the main thing.  Jesus’ authority to forgive sins is the main thing.  And he healed him “that you may know” that Jesus has this authority.  This knowledge is a kindness extended to everyone, not just the one man who was healed.

So, it is good to fight the temptation to make physical healing the main thing in our relationship with Jesus.

And we see another example of this authority in John 5:1-18, the healing at the pool of Bethesda.  Pastor John helpfully provided this statement in a sermon on that passage:

Jesus seeks out the man in the temple and tells him the real issue in his healing. “Afterward Jesus found him in the temple and said to him, ‘See, you are well! Sin no more, that nothing worse may happen to you.’” What’s the issue? The issue is holiness mainly, not health. “I have healed you to make you holy.”

I pray earnestly for my wife, that God would continue to hold her cancer at bay.  Praying for healing is a very good  and appropriate thing.  But it is a good thing only because it is subordinate to the main thing: Jesus Christ, my savior and my God.

Read Full Post »

I follow Noel Piper (and you should, too), but got behind and just recently saw the video that she posted last week:  Made in God’s Image.  It is a beautiful video.  That young man is amazing and that father is the kind of father I want to be.

But after watching it I allowed my mind to wander to things that are not good for me:

  • Wouldn’t it be great if my anophthalmic boy could do those same things?
  • Boy, I wish I could talk to my son like that dad can talk to his son.
  • This whole disability thing is just rotten.
  • I think I deserve better than this.

You can see where it was headed.

Thankfully, it was just a moment.  I have had seasons where I went on for a very long time in self-pity and bitterness.  God was merciful that he didn’t let it go on longer as he quickly convicted me of my sin of not trusting in him and looking to him as perfect and sure provider of all my needs.

God’s word is more than just helpful in those moments; it is decisive:

Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God. Hebrews 12:1-2

So, once again, God humbled me, convicted me, and carried me at the same time.  He is truly awesome beyond description.

Read Full Post »

A convicting and helpful guest post from my friend, Jan Lacher:

I have been incredibly inspired this week as I have listened to Revive Our Hearts with Nancy Leigh DeMoss.  The subject  over the past three days has been memorizing Scripture.

Usually, every morning, as I give Michael his medications and tube feeding, Revive Our Hearts blares across the radios in my home.  I typically listen to the program as I move from one room to another, going about my work getting Michael ready for the day. The  featured guest this week  has been a seasoned saint,  Nancy Epperson.

On Wednesday, the discussion between Nancy Leigh DeMoss and Nancy Epperson  peaked my interest, and I found myself nodding as they talked about all of the benefits of memorizing God’s Word. As a side note,  I have memorized some of our fighter verses over these past years.  I have had to learn them and relearn them.   I have taught my “normal” children fighter verses; although, I would argue that I did not teach them enough Scripture.  As Revive Our Hearts played, I contemplated how there has not been anything that I have done that has been more beneficial than memorizing the Word of God.  

My mind was swirling as I pondered the question that if memorizing parts of the Bible are so beneficial, why don’t I do more of it? Why am I not memorizing full chapters and possibly books? I certainly know the benefits and have experienced them.   Since Michael’s birth, I have been like a rock skipping across the lake as I have learned some verses and then having periods where I do not. For a variety of reasons, I have not been as consistent these past several years as I would like to be.   I sighed at the thought of the work that it would take to regain the momentum to do such a task as memorize verses and eventually chapters.

My attention was refocused on the program.  The two Nancys continued their discussion.   Then Nancy Epperson  said something that stopped me dead in the middle of Michael’s  feeding.  A segment from the January 6th transcript speaks for itself:

Nancy Leigh DeMoss: Now, don’t go too fast past that because there are a lot of people who will say, “I can’t memorize Scripture.”

Nancy Epperson: They will say that, but can I tell you something? That is not true. It’s true people say it, but it truly is a lie hatched in the pit of hell that Satan loves us to think. The fact is, everybody can.

Now, listen. I’ll never forget this. About 35 years ago, I was at a church in Winston, Salem. They had a group of young adults who were very mentally deficient. They could barely articulate. They were severely retarded, severely. They got up in this church—I will never forget it as long as I live—they quoted verse after verse after verse with the reference—verse after verse.

I’m telling you, I knew exactly, exactly why they could do that, because some precious, dear saint had spent hundreds of hours with them. Those precious, severely retarded young adults just quoted and quoted and quoted. It was just such a blessing.

I realized then anybody honestly can quote Scripture if you’ll go over it enough times. Stop and think about it. Think of all the things you know from memory.

When I heard the story above, my heart jumped.  Michael falls into the severely to profoundly mentally retarded category. Plus, he is nonverbal.  We have no way of knowing what he understands and how he processes information.    We try to teach him simple commands that would aide in his care such as “lean forward” when bathing his back. And through the shear repetition of that command  and through physical prompting, he has learned to do so.   But, I must admit, I have not contemplated  teaching him  Bible verses.  Who knows what he could glean from the repetition of Scripture being spoken to him when he rises up and when he lies down?   Also who knows  how the Holy Spirit could  use it to strengthen and under-gird him in all of his difficulties?

After listening to this program,  I have come away with a renewed vision and a resolve to make Scripture verses part of Michael’s life.  He may never be able to quote the references and verses, but God’s Word does not return void. I am determined to get my hardhat on my head and do the heavy “work” of imparting Scripture to our sweet Fox.

Read Full Post »

I was reminded again on Monday that God has granted a special kind of credibility to me and to other parents of children with disabilities based solely on the fact that we have a child with a disability.  People who know nothing else about us make assumptions that we’re probably more serious about life because of this family quality.  It is a good assumption.

Which means we get to say things that people can’t dismiss quite so easily as they might for others.  Things like:

  • God is good in all things
  • Jesus is my treasure
  • My own sin is a much greater problem for me than my child’s disability
  • When I am afraid, I can trust in the one who created my child
  • God created my son/daughter intentionally for his glory and for my good
  • There is amazing joy in knowing Jesus is my righteousness

Let’s not waste this gift God has given us to make much of Jesus!

In this you rejoice, though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been grieved by various trials, so that the tested genuineness of your faith—more precious than gold that perishes though it is tested by fire—may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ.  Though you have not seen him, you love him. Though you do not now see him, you believe in him and rejoice with joy that is inexpressible and filled with glory, obtaining the outcome of your faith, the salvation of your souls. 1 Peter 1:6-9

Read Full Post »

I’ve written before of my esteem for our good friends at Grace Church in Eden Prairie and their God-centered Barnabas Disability Ministry.  God has provided great encouragements to many at Bethlehem through these friends!

Sue Hume, one of those friends and the writer for Hope for Special Moms, asked me to contribute to her blog.  So I did.

You can read it here: Rise Up O Men of God!

I shook Troy Dobbs’ hand once (their senior pastor), but have never heard him preach.  My embrace of that church comes entirely based on fruits of God’s work I see in the lives of the people impacted by their disability ministry!  I hope Pastor Dobbs takes encouragement that his people are the real deal on this issue of disability and the sovereignty of God.  Paul, writing to Philemon, speaks of the kind of encouragement I feel from those folks at Grace:

I thank my God always when I remember you in my prayers, because I hear of your love and of the faith that you have toward the Lord Jesus and for all the saints, and I pray that the sharing of your faith may become effective for the full knowledge of every good thing that is in us for the sake of Christ. For I have derived much joy and comfort from your love, my brother, because the hearts of the saints have been refreshed through you. Philemon 1:4-7

Read Full Post »

« Newer Posts - Older Posts »