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This year has been challenging on many levels.  Paul’s still undiagnosed issue has been hard on the family.  We’re grateful for the promises God has given to us.

And we’re grateful for many wonderful things God has supplied this year with regards to disability and the church!

  • Pastor John delivered one of the most helpful sermons I have heard on God’s sovereignty over disability when he preached Born Blind for the Glory of God in January.
  • Just the Way I Am: God’s Good Design in Disability by Krista Horning was released!  Pastor John added an encouraging trailer to why this is an important, helpful book in answering the question of suffering.  The testimonies that have come to me about its impact have been very sweet.
  • Wrestling with an Angel by Greg Lucas was released!  Having had the chance to meet Greg and understand a bit of his heart made this book even more precious to me.
  • They have existed for a few years, but I was introduced to The Elisha Foundation in 2010 and have been personally encouraged by the men who lead them (and that Matt Perman of Desiring God has joined their board!).

And there were others.  Lisa and Larry Jamieson’s book sits in my pile, begging to be read (Dianne has heard Lisa speak and says, “she’s the real deal!”).  There are new developments happening at church that, Lord willing, will help us serve more people.  There’s a young man who has recorded a song that I’m praying the Lord will use to encourage families in our situation.  I’ve heard from several churches that are beginning or expanding their ministries to those living with disabilities.

So, my heart lives ‘as sorrowful, yet always rejoicing’ (2 Corinthians 6:10) as we close 2010.

Happy New Year!  May we all experience the miracle of God’s peace and divine heart protection in 2011:

And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7

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For some reason, Google has been bringing me a number of articles recently that deal with disability and anger.  It is a grace to realize I don’t live in that constant, debilitating state of anger at everything, including God, any longer.  God is very merciful.  And he continues to help me fight it today.

In our circles dealing with disability, being angry with God over our circumstances is common.  I won’t say universal as I have met people who did not struggle with anger towards God.  But they would have to be in the minority.

Pastor John dealt with this issue some years ago, and I’ve always appreciated how helpful it was.  So, here’s an excerpt from his article, Is It Ever Right to Be Angry at God?

This is why being angry at God is never right. It is wrong – always wrong – to disapprove of God for what he does and permits. “Shall not the Judge of all the earth do what is just?” (Genesis 18:25). It is arrogant for finite, sinful creatures to disapprove of God for what he does and permits. We may weep over the pain. We may be angry at sin and Satan. But God does only what is right. “Yes, O Lord God, the Almighty, true and righteous are Your judgments” (Revelation 16:7).

But many who say it is right to be angry with God really mean it is right to express anger at God. When they hear me say it is wrong to be angry with God, they think I mean “stuff your feelings and be a hypocrite.” That’s not what I mean. I mean it is always wrong to disapprove of God in any of his judgments.

But if we do experience the sinful emotion of anger at God, what then? Shall we add the sin of hypocrisy to the sin of anger? No. If we feel it, we should confess it to God. He knows it anyway. He sees our hearts. If anger at God is in our heart, we may as well tell him so, and then tell him we are sorry, and ask him to help us put it away by faith in his goodness and wisdom. (Emphasis mine)

When Jesus died on the cross for our sins, he removed forever the wrath of God from our lives. God’s disposition to us now is entirely mercy, even when severe and disciplinary (Romans 8:1). Therefore, doubly shall those in Christ turn away from the terrible specter of anger at God. We may cry, in agony, “My God, My God, where are you?” But we will follow soon with, “Into your hands I commit my spirit.”

No, this is not easy, especially when the air we breathe in our American culture tells us that we have the ‘right’ to be angry.  I’m thankful God is so much bigger than that and is ready to help us!

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Pastor Tom Eckblad has served as pastor for counseling at Bethlehem since 2003, and now he is moving on to other ministries.

We have benefited directly from the extraordinary gifts God gave to Pastor Tom, particularly in our darkest days with cancer in 2004.

He has known significant suffering in his life as well.

Pastor Sam wrote about Pastor Tom in this week’s Bethlehem Star, the weekly newsletter of Bethlehem Baptist Church.   There were some great encouragements offered, particularly for someone like me who is tempted to grumble.

Here is an excerpt from Pastor Sam’s article:

In their fleeting years among us at Bethlehem, we have seen them (Pastor Tom and his wife, Jeanie) face such difficulties as a broken leg from a slip on Minnesota ice, Jeanie’s eye problems, Tom’s adventure with Parkinson’s, and a grandchild born with serious disadvantages. And yet I have never heard Tom complain or grumble.

I asked Tom about this.

“Sam, Christians are realists. We admit pain. We suffer. When a mother gives birth, she doesn’t pretend like it doesn’t hurt. And yet, we are not to grumble or complain. How can we admit that there is pain in this life, especially when we are facing it at the moment, and yet do so without murmuring against God?”

His answer was immediate and came right out of Romans 8: “We groan with all creation (verse 22) yet we know that God is working it all together for the good of those who love him (verse 28).” There is a way to groan without complaining, to suffer with thanksgiving.

Thank you, Tom and Jeanie!  May God bless the next phase of your ministry, for his glory and for the joy of everyone you serve.

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Seminaries exist to turn out leaders for our churches, colleges and seminaries.  Those of us interested in disability ministry have a stake in who those seminaries turn out as leaders.

On Tuesday Justin Taylor had a great post quoting John Frame on the problem and the future of theological education and scholarship. The final sentence he quoted was this:

And to do that, they (evangelical colleges and seminaries) may have to cut themselves off from the present-day accreditation system.

One of the commenters pointed out that there are many variables in accreditation:

Most people do not know what the accreditation process is or how it works, but it involves far more than curricula or content. Things like number of students per faculty member, research tools and seminars, and even access for physically handicapped students (emphasis mine) all go into the accreditation process.

That commenter is absolutely right.  The Association of Theological Schools has a policy statement that includes guidelines on disability and theological education (pages 29-31).  It doesn’t take long to read.

It is a nice, safe, statement.  It is also deathly boring, without any specific reference to the Bible, and condescending to local churches.  I’ve read almost the same statements prepared by governmental bodies (minus the ‘religious’ language, of course), denominations, and social service agencies.

But my greatest concern is that an accrediting body for seminaries believes that information is sufficient to change people’s hearts and attitudes towards those living with disabilities.  ‘Awareness’ and ‘experience’ drive this change according to these guidelines – not the Word of God, deep conviction about sin, or prayer.

I am all for awareness and seminary students being in relationship with those who live with disabilities.  A few weeks ago Pastor David Michael and I spoke to the first-year Bethlehem Seminary students, and I focused on the topic of disability and invited their personal engagement with the disability ministry at church.

But awareness and experience with disability did nothing to change my attitude about people with disabilities – my darkest days in terms of attitude about disability were the first years living with my son.  You can’t get more aware than that.  Nor was I lead out of my bitterness and hardness of heart through awareness.  Rather, it was God’s people pursuing my good, frequently using the Word of God, and then God calling me from darkness to light.

So, I pray that Bethlehem College and Seminary finds ways to include disability as part of the students’ learning and experiences.  But never at the expense of deepening engagement with and affections for God and his Word.  That’s where our real hope for change in attitude and behavior towards those living with disabilities lies for these future leaders of the church.

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“What father among you, if his son asks for a fish, will instead of a fish give him a serpent; or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” Luke 11:11-13

Years ago a mother of young children commented to Dianne, “you are so fortunate your son doesn’t beg for everything he sees at the store!” It was one of those statements that I’m sure that mother regrets saying.  I know I regret her saying it.

It was also kinda true. Paul only asks for things he knows; he isn’t enticed by advertisements, store displays or fliers.   And that isn’t all bad.

But sometimes it would be nice if he could ask for and anticipate receiving a gift from his family.

We include Paul in everything we can in our family, even things we probably shouldn’t for the sake of other people.  Opening presents is one of those things we enjoy doing together.  But Paul literally doesn’t ask for anything he doesn’t already have.  And of the things he has, he really only asks for a small subset of those things.

So, every year every member of the family, including extended family, has to think especially hard about Paul.  And we have to be prepared that the gifts he receives may not ever be appreciated or used.  Actually that’s a good thing:  freely we love our Paul and want to give him good gifts.  His response shouldn’t (and doesn’t) change that.

I know, of course, that he is given the daily gifts of a loving family, inclusive church, and access to health care – all of which make him a very rich young man.

But I take even greater comfort that God knows what Paul really needs – and will enjoy – even when I have no clue.

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As I write this on Thursday it feels like I’m surrounded by hurt in so many people I know: a young man having surgery related to his disability; a young wife hospitalized for an unknown, painful ailment; children going through rough spells physically and emotionally; families hurting and barely hanging on.

There is no room in these circumstances for a trite, cheerful response.

God’s word speaks into suffering.  It never fails to recognize the pain of this world, and the source of the answer:

Psalm 119:28 My soul melts away for sorrow;
strengthen me according to your word!
29 Put false ways far from me
and graciously teach me your law!
30 I have chosen the way of faithfulness;
I set your rules before me.
31 I cling to your testimonies, O Lord;
let me not be put to shame!
32 I will run in the way of your commandments
when you enlarge my heart!

There’s a little footnote attached to verse 32 which indicates that last part could also be read for you set my heart free. I love that thought!  I am especially comforted that it is God who does the work of enlarging hearts and setting hearts free.

I’m praying for an enlarged, free heart for you and for me today.

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If you’ve never heard of that day, you missed it.  I did, too.

It has been around for a while.  The United Nations declared in 1981 that it would be celebrated on December 3 every year.

The purpose:

The Day aims to promote a better understanding of disability issues with a focus on the rights of persons with disabilities and gains to be derived from the integration of persons with disabilities in every aspect of the political, social, economic and cultural life of their communities. United Nations Enable

President Obama included this in his presidential declaration for the day:

America stands in solidarity with the growing number of nations around the world that have committed themselves to ending unequal treatment of persons with disabilities.  On International Day of Persons with Disabilities, we acknowledge the contributions of women and men with disabilities around the world, and we recognize our charge to ensure that all individuals can enjoy full inclusion and participation in our societies.

I’m struck by two things:

  1. This was about it from the White House (or Congress for that matter – neither the House nor the Senate even made a statement that I could find).  There were no videos or personal appearances by the President or Vice President.  Since almost 50 million Americans live with a disabling condition, I find that curious.
  2. He doesn’t really recognize his ‘charge to ensure that all individuals can enjoy full inclusion and participation in our societies.’  The unborn children with disabilities who are being exterminated at alarming rates never have the opportunity to be included or participate.

And I believe the greatest acts of celebration have nothing to do with these declarations by the UN or the White House.  This Sunday morning, Lord willing, I will take my entire family to church where I will observe children and adults with disabilities being welcomed, worshipping, and sitting under preaching that honors God.

I’ll take these quiet acts of inclusion 52 times a year over a one-day celebration or a multitude of governmental declarations.

Of course it is imperfectly done at Bethlehem; I know there are some who do not feel included or welcomed.  We need God’s continued help and provision to change that and to serve all who come.  We need his wisdom.  Please continue to pray for us.

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Paul had another of his spells on Monday, and in the process bruised his right heel.  The next morning he taught me a lesson.

As he walked around the house before school, it was a pattern of grimace, smile, grimace, smile, grimace, smile, grimace, smile.  When he found his special chair and got weight off his foot, he sang.

It was amazing to watch.  I don’t think I’ve seen anything like it before.

He wasn’t trying to put on a brave face; he isn’t capable of doing that.  What he’s feeling inside comes out on his face and through his voice.  His foot really hurt, and he was really happy.

His example puts me to shame.  I would have been strongly tempted to let the world know how miserable I was over a bruised heel.  Or, self righteously, I might have ‘toughed it out’ but would have not been smiling and singing in the midst of it.

But my boy sang.  He can’t even understand his pain, and he sang.

It brought to mind Paul and Silas who were beaten, shackled and placed in jail:

About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the prisoners were listening to them. . . Acts 16:25

Paul’s disabilities encourage him to live in the moment.  He doesn’t think a whole lot about the future or the past or about consequences.

And here are just a few of the God-honoring outcomes I’ve seen before because of his disabilities:

  • He is never anxious about what he will eat or wear (Matthew 6:25)
  • He is quick to forgive (Colossians 3:13)
  • He expects good gifts from his father (Matthew 7:11)
  • “As sorrowful, yet always rejoicing; as poor, yet making many rich; as having nothing, yet possessing everything” (2 Corinthians 6:10)

Today I think he added:

Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice.  Philippians 4:4

And to think that people feel sorry for him!

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Pastor Sam is one of the giants at Bethlehem. He doesn’t preach much, but his influence is everywhere – from his role as Executive Pastor to frequently leading the communion table to his endless work on multiple internal and external committees.

One of those committees is the Desiring God Board of Directors, where he shared this devotional several weeks ago:

Christ keeps us.

John 16:1 I have said all these things to you to keep you from falling away.

John 17:11 And I am no longer in the world, but they are in the world, and I am coming to you. Holy Father, keep them in your name, which you have given me, that they may be one, even as we are one.

Jude 1:24-25 Now to him who is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you blameless before the presence of his glory with great joy, 25 to the only God, our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord, be glory, majesty, dominion, and authority, before all time and now and forever. Amen.

Christ keeps his own, but how? How does Christ keep us?  One answer is: by being beautiful to us.  By allowing us to behold him, to see his surpassing beauty and superior value, other competing idols drop dead.  They don’t compete well.  Who wants a soggy rat-chewed hot dog bun found in the dumpster with yesterday’s ketchup and mustard on it, when he is offered a fresh, steamy hot meal at the buffet?

2 Corinthians 3:10 Indeed, in this case, what once had glory has come to have no glory at all, because of the glory that surpasses it.

Philippians 3:8 Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord.

Ephesian 3:19 and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.

Living an easier life, free of the suffering and complications and difficulties and expense related to disability, frequently feels like a very competitive idol to Jesus.  But that’s only when I take my eyes off him.

Thank you, Sam, for this good word from the Word on the extraordinary beauty and majesty of Jesus.

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A short video of Jennifer Rothschild, who is blind, talking about living with a disability and testing out the promises of God.

It brings to mind 2 Corinthians 6:1-10 (emphases in bold are mine):

Working together with him, then, we appeal to you not to receive the grace of God in vain. For he says,

“In a favorable time I listened to you,
and in a day of salvation I have helped you.”

Behold, now is the favorable time; behold, now is the day of salvation. We put no obstacle in anyone’s way, so that no fault may be found with our ministry, but as servants of God we commend ourselves in every way: by great endurance, in afflictions, hardships, calamities, beatings, imprisonments, riots, labors, sleepless nights, hunger; by purity, knowledge, patience, kindness, the Holy Spirit, genuine love; by truthful speech, and the power of God; with the weapons of righteousness for the right hand and for the left; through honor and dishonor, through slander and praise. We are treated as impostors, and yet are true; as unknown, and yet well known; as dying, and behold, we live; as punished, and yet not killed; as sorrowful, yet always rejoicing; as poor, yet making many rich; as having nothing, yet possessing everything.

 

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